I hate my spouse’s family.

[Anonymous]

Honestly-it’s becoming enough for me to question if I can really deal with it anymore.

My in-laws are pretty much worst case scenario. They are terrible in laws and terrible grandparents.

They are narcissistic and just miserable to be around. And they are local so I see them way more than I’d like.

And my spouses’ siblings are just as bad. My spouse has some of the awful traits of each of them but in a much more tolerable form. He minimizes the totally inappropriate things his family does and says. And I am reaching my limit. We have been married for 10 years. If you have a situation similar how do you deal with it? Or did it eventually ruin your marriage?

[Anonymous]

My MIL refused to attend our wedding unless I signed a prenup.
We moved 10 years later to another city an hour away. She took it personally.

Eventually DH saw her true colors when she changed her will to give everything (4 million) to the son she still controls. They no longer speak.

[Anonymous]

You could be right. Or you could be a neurotic basket case. We need you to give us specific examples so we can judge you. LOL

[Anonymous]

Me too, although I feel badly about it. They are so incredibly well-meaning, but just so not my kind of people - at all. Thanksgiving should be fun.

[Anonymous]

(In the bored voice of the front desk staff) -

We'll need examples.

[Anonymous]

I go through similar . Hate my in laws and his siblings . I keep it very shallow and keep my distance . I have communicated with him several times why I hate them . He has also slowed interaction as a result . We did make sure to not live in the same city as them and that helps bc as everyone ages they don’t come as often which is a relief .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly-it’s becoming enough for me to question if I can really deal with it anymore.

My in-laws are pretty much worst case scenario. They are terrible in laws and terrible grandparents.

They are narcissistic and just miserable to be around. And they are local so I see them way more than I’d like.

And my spouses’ siblings are just as bad. My spouse has some of the awful traits of each of them but in a much more tolerable form. He minimizes the totally inappropriate things his family does and says. And I am reaching my limit. We have been married for 10 years. If you have a situation similar how do you deal with it? Or did it eventually ruin your marriage?

Same here. So self centered and rude and bizarre. I especially cannot stand all their lying.

They literally come over, go through folders and desks and tip things up and then turn around and lie about it. This was more from the Doofus type, but still it was a team homework project for my tween and her math class. FIL just couldn’t resist going through it and forgetting it was it important or to ask about it first so he ripped the card stock project in half and threw out (or kept) the bottom. And it’s on security camera.

Daughter went to Dad and he’s covering for his Dad and throwing little sister under the bus.

Again it’s all in security camera and the 10 yo knows better.

I need a glass of wine just thinking about all their nutjob lying and gaslighting.

I mean, what do you call lying and gaslighting when it so obviously made up and delusional?

[Anonymous]

Psychotic

That’s what it is

[Anonymous]

Maybe they hate you…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they hate you…

Op here. Oh they definitely do. It definitely goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly-it’s becoming enough for me to question if I can really deal with it anymore.

My in-laws are pretty much worst case scenario. They are terrible in laws and terrible grandparents.

They are narcissistic and just miserable to be around. And they are local so I see them way more than I’d like.

And my spouses’ siblings are just as bad. My spouse has some of the awful traits of each of them but in a much more tolerable form. He minimizes the totally inappropriate things his family does and says. And I am reaching my limit. We have been married for 10 years. If you have a situation similar how do you deal with it? Or did it eventually ruin your marriage?

Same here. So self centered and rude and bizarre. I especially cannot stand all their lying.

They literally come over, go through folders and desks and tip things up and then turn around and lie about it. This was more from the Doofus type, but still it was a team homework project for my tween and her math class. FIL just couldn’t resist going through it and forgetting it was it important or to ask about it first so he ripped the card stock project in half and threw out (or kept) the bottom. And it’s on security camera.

Daughter went to Dad and he’s covering for his Dad and throwing little sister under the bus.

Again it’s all in security camera and the 10 yo knows better.

I need a glass of wine just thinking about all their nutjob lying and gaslighting.

I mean, what do you call lying and gaslighting when it so obviously made up and delusional?

Op here-very similar behavior with mine. They gaslight regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
(In the bored voice of the front desk staff) -

We'll need examples.

There are so so so many. But I’m not going to give specific examples because it would be to obvious if anyone I knew saw the thread.

[Anonymous]

OP is pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is pathetic

What is your purpose for just commenting on every thread with this? Who hurt you?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like OP is the neurotic one if she refuses to say anything.