Would a private school suspend or expel a boy for this?

[Anonymous]

If a primary school boy was given a large new iPhone without any web restrictions and was using it to introduce and look at pornography with classmates. And one of those classmate's parents found out and turned the boy into school administrators, how would the school punish the child? Apparently this had been going on since the start of this school year and has totally warped the minds of the boys. These are only 9 and 10 years old.

[Anonymous]

Oh no, this is so sad. You cannot undo this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, this is so sad. You cannot undo this.

That's my thought too. I think the boy thus family should be expelled. But I'm curious what others think and how their school would handle this.

[Anonymous]

This is happening at school, during the school day or outside of school/after school? Makes a big difference from the school perspective. For the sake of all of the kids, please tell the school or the parents.

[Anonymous]

At such a young age, I would wonder how the boy knew about pornography. I would be concerned about what he is being exposed to at home.

I'd also be concerned about supervision. If this was happening during the school day, where were the teachers. At my kid's middle school, teachers confiscate any phones they see, and even more so for elementary school.

All that to say, expulsion/punishment is not the most important thing for you to focus on.

[Anonymous]

I would doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Happened to a middle school kid at our school, but the "offense" took place off campus, after school. Punishment was suspension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a primary school boy was given a large new iPhone without any web restrictions and was using it to introduce and look at pornography with classmates. And one of those classmate's parents found out and turned the boy into school administrators, how would the school punish the child? Apparently this had been going on since the start of this school year and has totally warped the minds of the boys. These are only 9 and 10 years old.

If this happened during school, and if the school didn't expel the student, I would leave the school (and initiate a lawsuit if they threatened to keep me on the hook for tuition payments); I might even leave the school regardless of whether they expelled the offending student. Schools step into the role of primary guardian of our children during school hours, and if they were so incompetent as to be allowing 9 year-old boys to be engaging in this activity during school hours for over two months, my trust in the school would be shattered.

Obviously the boy made a mistake, which is to be expected of children; however, the parents are at fault for giving their child a phone without any restrictions, and those type of careless parents should not be welcome in any decent private school.

[Anonymous]

I would not expect expulsion on the first offense. I would expect other consequences, meetings with the parents etc. If it happened again then maybe expulsion. The school also has failed here and needs to seriously revisit its phone/technology policy (assuming this was during school hours). I would 100% alert the school.

[Anonymous]

If the school did expel the student, the students parents would just come on this forum and bash the school and the administration.

If the school didn't expel the student, other students parents would just come on this forum and bash the school and the administration.

[Anonymous]

This is clearly a psychological issue that must be addressed through therapy.

[Anonymous]

For better or worse, private schools can assess and handle on a case by case. It would depend on the family (long time? new? trouble makers already?), how much the school wants the keep the kid himself, how much blame the school feels they should take for not catching the kids sneaking Iphones during the school day, the situation with other siblings.
Who gives their 9 year old an Iphone with no safety guards?? And lets them take a phone to school?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the school. I’d say most would suspend him.

[Anonymous]

At my public school this would be a mandated reporter to child protective services. At that age we report sexual comments and activities. Maybe nothing is done, but children shouldn’t be exposed to sexual material at that age so it’s for CPS to investigate and decide. I’m a mandated reporter but anyone can make the report. If your child is being exposed to pornography at school, report the school.

[Anonymous]

You say it's pornography, but even lawmakers in this country can't decide what is pornography and what isn't. It should be handled on a case by case basis.

There is a vast difference between Playboy type pictures and (I don't want to get too explicit, use your imagination)