Women who prioritize looks, does it ever end well?

[Anonymous]

Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

[Anonymous]

And then the dead bedroom starts and it’s a mess.

[Anonymous]

Let's see how many assumptions you crammed into those two sentences:

1. Marriage is the end-all, be-all.
2. Only married people should have children.
3. Married people are automatically happier than unmarried people.
4. Beauty is an objective, not subjective trait.
5. Good-looking men=relationship instability; worse-looking men=relationship stability.
6. Good-looking men can't be as money/career driven as worse-looking men.

Wow. That must be some kind of record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

This has been my observation as well.

[Anonymous]

Does this really happen all that much? Women consciously prioritizing looks?

I can only think of one woman I've known, over the course of my entire life, who loudly and unapologetically prioritized looks in men. She was always talking about "hot guys!" and looking all weird and thirsty when she said that. Punchline, she's about a 4/10 herself, if that, and is now over 50 and alone. Other than one college boyfriend (who, for the record, wasn't hot) she has never had a relationship (unless you count the married guy she didn't know was married who never took her on a date and just showed up at her condo for sex a few times).

So yeah, that's only one person, but I guess it didn't end well? Given that she literally never found anyone? And all she wanted was a DH and kids?

[Anonymous]

Looks generally create the initial attraction but after that there needs to be some substance. I only know one woman who clearly married a guy just for his looks, which were amazing, but they got divorced after about 18 years. He had the depth of a puddle.

[Anonymous]

My husband says I am the most beautiful woman he has ever known——. OMG op did he just marry me for my looks?!???

[Anonymous]

One of the most persistent copes on this board is that attractive people can't be smart, successful, deep, etc.

[Anonymous]

My dw started with looks with me and vice versa. I was laid off from a tech comapny and hadn’t had a job in months or any prospects. She’s very driven and was crushing it at her job. We’re still happily married 22 years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the most persistent copes on this board is that attractive people can't be smart, successful, deep, etc.

+1

The other favorite cope is settling for uggos to get a ring and then wanting to drag everyone else into the same predicament.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the most persistent copes on this board is that attractive people can't be smart, successful, deep, etc.

None of those are related. Smart and successful often aren’t necessarily related. Deep and successful (if you mean earn a lot of money/prestige by successful) are sort of opposite because amassing material things sort of rules out thinking deeply about the world and our place in it. So it may be a “cope” but attractive people usually buy into the idea that being successful means keeping up appearances, which isn’t really deep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

I got both. Married 25 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

I got both. Married 25 years.

+1

15 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

I got both. Married 25 years.

+1

15 years

+2 21 years.

[Anonymous]

My wife married a nerd...I'd say it worked out.