Men, when do you feel comfortable in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I've heard people say men get lazy once they think they've got you "locked down". I suppose that means engagement or marriage or kids?

Men, how far into a relationship do you get lazy and stop trying hard to "win" your partner?

Is there a way to keep standards up but also feel comfortable?

[Anonymous]

After 11 days.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I’ve ever gotten lazy as she keeps moving the relationship goal posts. I don’t complain because the rewards are great and I’m smart enough to know getting lazy in anything is not a good idea. Laziness leads to boredom, boredom leads to apathy and apathy lead to I’m out of here.

[Anonymous]

Once the fruit has been plucked.

[Anonymous]

Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

That's what I'm worried about. So is never living together the answer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

That's what I'm worried about. So is never living together the answer?

Why wouldn't you want your partner to be comfortable around you? Are you afraid farting or pooping in the same space will kill the romance?

[Anonymous]

When I’m left alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

That's what I'm worried about. So is never living together the answer?

Why wouldn't you want your partner to be comfortable around you? Are you afraid farting or pooping in the same space will kill the romance?

Yes that’s exactly what I’m afraid of

[Anonymous]

Been over thirty years and still working at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’ve ever gotten lazy as she keeps moving the relationship goal posts. I don’t complain because the rewards are great and I’m smart enough to know getting lazy in anything is not a good idea. Laziness leads to boredom, boredom leads to apathy and apathy lead to I’m out of here.

This makes sense. Relationships are a life long marathon and not a ten second sprint when you then veg out. I’m a women and we’ve been married a long time and being lazy in our relationship is not part of my DNA nor my spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

Not least because that's when she thinks she has you over a barrel and starts getting lazy herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something changes once you start living together. It's just a different dynamic going from only seeing someone on dates to sharing a living space.

That's what I'm worried about. So is never living together the answer?

Live together and it's only a matter of time before you take each other for granted and think the other person is out of options because it's too hard for them to date someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’ve ever gotten lazy as she keeps moving the relationship goal posts. I don’t complain because the rewards are great and I’m smart enough to know getting lazy in anything is not a good idea. Laziness leads to boredom, boredom leads to apathy and apathy lead to I’m out of here.

I like your energy!!

What do you mean by the bolded part? How does she do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’ve ever gotten lazy as she keeps moving the relationship goal posts. I don’t complain because the rewards are great and I’m smart enough to know getting lazy in anything is not a good idea. Laziness leads to boredom, boredom leads to apathy and apathy lead to I’m out of here.

I like your energy!!

What do you mean by the bolded part? How does she do this?

Easy, it’s time we had a baby…then 2… then 3. Then other aspirations that make sense and you up your game. Nothing indulgent or obnoxious which would shut me down. She’s actually very low maintenance personally so her aspirations are very family oriented. She should be a CEO.