is this the right way to improve a young person EQ?

[Anonymous]

I work in FinTech and get invited to many FinTech conferences during the year along with golf outings from vendors that my employer has a relationship with. I usually attend these conferences every three months and golf with vendors every month. I would like to bring my eighteen years old college freshman DS with me to conferences and also golf outing events so that he can start developing networking relationships with people at conferences and golf events. I think this will help him improve his EQ by experiencing rejections and failures. He will not have to pay for conference costs, hotel (he will stay with me), meals (I got that paid for by the vendors), and he only has to pay for travel costs which are not much if purchased in advance. Is this a good or bad idea?

[Anonymous]

You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

[Anonymous]

It is a terrible idea. You aren’t an entrepreneur or a real estate agent bringing your kid under your wing as part of your business.

When I was in college, I was selected to be part of a group of “ambassadors” that the university would leverage any time they needed students to go to events with donors and prominent alumni. After we were accepted to the program, we had etiquette lessons and a practice cocktail party. Attending events as a representative of the university was how I learned how to network well enough to get a job in consulting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

Just because someone has done worse doesn't mean it's okay for you to do something less wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

No, you’d be teaching him this is acceptable workplace behavior and it’s not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your common sense and EQ. FinTech should fire you.

OP here. Why should they fire me?

It's business, not Take My Kid To Work Trip.

Your kid doesn't work at the company.

This is OP. There are people at the company who have done worse such as taking their spouse to conferences and accepting expensive gifts from vendors. What I am doing is small potatoes compared to them. I will not get fired but putting that aside, the question I have is: if my DS does that, will it improve his EQ in the long run?

Call up your FinTech's lawyers and ask them if they're cool with your vendors bribing you by paying for your child's meals.

[Anonymous]

The vendors don’t want to meet your kid. They want your full attention to their sales pitch, not for you to be visibly taking advantage of their largesse by inserting your kid for free golf.

[Anonymous]

I took my wife and three kids last conference it is not that crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took my wife and three kids last conference it is not that crazy

It's one thing to take family. It's another to ask vendors to pay for your family (a bribe) and then to have your kid interfere with your work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took my wife and three kids last conference it is not that crazy

It's one thing to take family. It's another to ask vendors to pay for your family (a bribe) and then to have your kid interfere with your work.

If vendors are ok with it, what’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

How do you know the vendors are really ok with it? I wouldn’t want to deal with someone else’s kid during the course of my work. The way to help a kid improve their EQ is by having them do things like community service, working in customer service, and modeling good values at home. You’re confusing networking with EQ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the vendors are really ok with it? I wouldn’t want to deal with someone else’s kid during the course of my work. The way to help a kid improve their EQ is by having them do things like community service, working in customer service, and modeling good values at home. You’re confusing networking with EQ.

Ethics and morals aside, introducing your children to colleagues has nothing to do with EQ. Your best bet is to find extracurriculars that focus on it. Leadership clubs. Debate clubs. Anything that helps young adults put themselves in others' shoes.