How Much Beer is Too Much?

[Anonymous]

We are hosting Tday this year. We are a family of five- kids are 12, 15, 17. My parents, my inlaws, their widowed best friend, my sister and her DH, their two kids and my DH's brother and gf.

My DH's brother drinks a lot of beer. I'm not going to make an issue of it but he could easily drink 8 over the course of the day. Would it be weird to keep his beer in a cooler in the garage away from everyone else's drinks just so the sheer volumn being consumed isn't witnessed?

[Anonymous]

Unnecessary. If TG is 12p - 8p, one beer per hour is not noticeably excessive. Nobody is counting. Don’t make a big deal about it.
Unless, he has a tendency to get loud and drunk and disruptive, in which case you have a different problem on your hands.

[Anonymous]

Yes, this is very weird. He is a guest in your home. As long as he behaves himself, it would be shockingly rude for you to single out his consumption. If he behaves badly, address the behavior at that time.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have room in your fridge, a cooler is a good solution for all the drinks.

[Anonymous]

Does he have behavioral issues when drinking? Or is it just the drinking itself you have a problem with?

[Anonymous]

You have 11 adults

I’d buy 4 reds, 4 white and a 1/2 case of beer and I would stop counting everyone’s consumption because that’s INSANE.

[Anonymous]

Why in the world would you help somebody you think has an alcohol problem hide their consumption?

[Anonymous]

Weird question OP. And on a holiday, over the course of a full day, 8 beers isn’t that excessive. And why would you need to hide it?

[Anonymous]

We don't serve beer at our parties. I think of beer as being for football parties and bbq and such.

[Anonymous]

Who are you trying to hide it from?

I would suggest hiding it isn't your responsibility and isn't going to help anyone.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand your reasoning for hiding someone's excessive drinking. Personally, yes, I think it's excessive. And I would want everyone to see how many beers he's drinking, including the kids, because that's a teachable moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are hosting Tday this year. We are a family of five- kids are 12, 15, 17. My parents, my inlaws, their widowed best friend, my sister and her DH, their two kids and my DH's brother and gf.

My DH's brother drinks a lot of beer. I'm not going to make an issue of it but he could easily drink 8 over the course of the day. Would it be weird to keep his beer in a cooler in the garage away from everyone else's drinks just so the sheer volumn being consumed isn't witnessed?

I mean, why is it important to you to hide it?

[Anonymous]

I think you being concerned about others noting the volume is unhealthy. Do you come from an alcoholic family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are hosting Tday this year. We are a family of five- kids are 12, 15, 17. My parents, my inlaws, their widowed best friend, my sister and her DH, their two kids and my DH's brother and gf.

My DH's brother drinks a lot of beer. I'm not going to make an issue of it but he could easily drink 8 over the course of the day. Would it be weird to keep his beer in a cooler in the garage away from everyone else's drinks just so the sheer volumn being consumed isn't witnessed?

I mean, why is it important to you to hide it?

+1

[Anonymous]

It's very concerning that your first impulse is to hide this behavior. If your kids or spouse starts behaving weirdly, will all you think about be hiding it and pretend everything is normal, instead of addressing the problems (which sometimes means letting them out in the open for all to see)?