Curfew- strict rule or a little flexible
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Anonymous
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Which are you:
1. The deadline is the deadline. Plan ahead, if needed. 2. Around the deadline is fine because you’d rather them not speed to make it home. |
Anonymous
| I never had a curfew growing up, and my teen isn’t old enough to drive yet. What is the point of a specific/strict curfew? I think it’s better to know where the kid is, and roughly when they will be home. So I would say flexible. |
Anonymous
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They have a phone. If they’re going to be late they should call.
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Anonymous
| They are to call if they might be even a minute late. But, they are to always PLAN to get home ten minutes before the agreed-upon curfew so that if things come up, they don't HAVE to speed to get home. Huge accident and have to detour? They've got time to do that. |
Anonymous
| No curfew. They're not supposed to be out late, but exceptions will of course be made when I'm told what the plan and schedule are. |
Anonymous
| I never did a curfew with my kids. They had to tell me where they would be and when they expected to be home. If anything changed, they had to text or call to let me know. |
Anonymous
| Mine do not have a curfew. The car has a curfew. If DS wants to stay out past 12:30 then he needs to come home and leave the car and get a ride with friends to the next place they are going. I would say 80% of the time he ends up just staying home once he gets home. Very occasionally he is out super late like 2pm +, but usually it is before 1 am. DD does not drive yet so her curfew is dependent on how late I am wiling to stay up to get her or wait for her to get home. |
Anonymous
+1. Strict curfews are outdated. They were for a time when kids couldn’t contact parents and vice versa. I’m going to be more relaxed about my kid going to a midnight showing of a new movie, getting home at 2 vs a parent-free party, that also ends at 2am. |
Anonymous
| flexible curfew. |
Anonymous
| We agree on what time they will be home and if they are late they need to call or text. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Another family with no curfews. But that doesn’t mean anything goes, that means we need to know where you’re going, with whom, etc. and estimated time coming home. I don’t mind if they’re out late because they’re over at a friends house having fun watching movies, etc. if they’re doing more of the “roaming around” kind of an evening, then we do ask for a reasonable time home and one of us tries to stay awake that long to hear them coming in. |
Anonymous
Option 1 BUT I wouldn't say anything other than a quick "You're late! Watch the clock better next time" for less than 10 mins late. Life happens. Also - I'd be willing to make exceptions for specific reasons. If your curfew is midnight and you really want to see a movie with your friends, but it's only showing at 7:30 and 10pm and one friend works till 8, yeah, you can see the 10pm showing and get home at 12:30 this once. |
Anonymous
| We also don’t have a curfew but talk about when he’ll be home and agree upon a time. He’s 17 and drives and it’s worked well so far. |
Anonymous
| We also don’t do curfews. My kid doesn’t drive yet, so the latest I’m willing to pick her up is 11/11:30, so that’s usually the latest she stays out. |