Exchange student has a boyfriend

[Anonymous]

We are hosting a European exchange student for the next month. Our student has only been here one week and has started dating one of DD’s friends.

My question is, how much do I monitor and or restrict what she does. I’m not her parent so I’m not in a position to sit down and have a serious discussion about expectations.

How do I proceed here?

[Anonymous]

How old are they? You need to go over your house rules and general expectations.

[Anonymous]

Are you in communication with their parents?

Breaking the rules is the primary reason to be an exchange student.

[Anonymous]

OP here. They are 16.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? You need to go over your house rules and general expectations.

Agreed. I would hold her to the same rules you would have for your own child that age.

[Anonymous]

Sixteen? oh no

[Anonymous]

Same rules I’d have for my own kids:
-No being alone at home without an adult
-Have info about who this kid is, where he lives and who the parents are
-No time in bedroom
-Home by midnight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are hosting a European exchange student for the next month. Our student has only been here one week and has started dating one of DD’s friends.

My question is, how much do I monitor and or restrict what she does. I’m not her parent so I’m not in a position to sit down and have a serious discussion about expectations.

How do I proceed here?

But you are her in loco parentis. And you can have house expectations.

[Anonymous]

Does she want to get knocked up and move to America

[Anonymous]

Be happy she isn't dating one of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Europeans are much more relaxed about teen sexuality than we are, I wouldn’t overthink it. I’d just have the same rules for her that you would for your own kids that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she want to get knocked up and move to America

That is your automatic assumption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Europeans are much more relaxed about teen sexuality than we are, I wouldn’t overthink it. I’d just have the same rules for her that you would for your own kids that age.

French person here. NO!

What's wrong with you?!?

We're normal people like you: some Europeans are permissive, some Europeans are most definitely not! You don't know what this exchange student's family is like, and you cannot make assumptions based on her home continent. Ridiculous!

The point of being an exchange student is to live like the children in the host family. OP, thanks for looking out for this minor. If you're asking the question here, clearly you care. Enforce some reasonable rules.

[Anonymous]

Mistake to willingly agree to have -more- teenagers in the house.

[Anonymous]

Tell her not to have xes because it's not a guarantee that she could get an abortion.