Am I really still beneath my peers financially?

[Anonymous]

There was a long period of my life where I still needed financial support from my parents when most people my age didn't(through no fault of my own). I've finally managed to become self-supporting after a lot of hard work, but it now it seems as if most of my peers have moved on from supporting themselves to supporting themselves and their parents. I really feel I deserve a grace-period where I'm on the same level as my peers, even if it's just temporary. I'd like to have at-least till my mid-thirties. But now it seems as though I'm always going to be one step behind my peers.

[Anonymous]

Compare what you make to your needs, not what other people make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a long period of my life where I still needed financial support from my parents when most people my age didn't(through no fault of my own). I've finally managed to become self-supporting after a lot of hard work, but it now it seems as if most of my peers have moved on from supporting themselves to supporting themselves and their parents. I really feel I deserve a grace-period where I'm on the same level as my peers, even if it's just temporary. I'd like to have at-least till my mid-thirties. But now it seems as though I'm always going to be one step behind my peers.

Accept it and move on. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Are your parents immigrants? It's unusual to be responsible for your parents financially in this country.

[Anonymous]

Stop posting the same topic under different threads. If your culture expects you to be independent and supporting your parents in your mid-thirties, all your peers are able to , and you cannot, then you are behind. Most Americans do not have this expectation of mid-thirty year olds.

[Anonymous]

Not every set of parents needs their children to support them. Mine are much richer than I am. They don't support me.

[Anonymous]

OP unless you make median income stop fussing about "peers". This isn't a commune.

[Anonymous]

Oh, it's you again. The one with the serious anxiety disorder who is always making rationalizations and comparing to peers and asking for reassurance.

There's no "grace period". There's no person or entity who decides whether to give you one. There's only your own opinion of yourself. We all have our own lives to live, and our own struggles and successes and failures. There's no judge here except the one in your own head.

I don't think posting here is healthy for you.

[Anonymous]

There will ALWAYS be people who have more money than you, just as there will ALWAYS be people who have less money than you. Don't compare, just take care of you!

[Anonymous]

STOP LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES FOR GUIDANCE IN YOURS.

You have a different life and have done different things and made different choices. You cannot compare yourself to others and try to "keep up with the Jones" just based on your age group. Stop trying. You have finally achieved equilibrium where you are self-sufficient. You should be pleased with making the changes needed to get there. Can you not be satisfied that you've made huge strides in improving your life? Learn to be happy with where you are and learn to set your goals based on your own life and not others. You should look at your own life and what you've achieved and then decide what you want your next goal to be.

You have no idea what challenges others have overcome or what bonus boosts they received. So you can't compare yourself to them. They may have started a step ahead of you in life and so trying to compare yourself to them is only gong to depress you for something you had no control over.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need therapy. You keep posting the same thing over and over again.

[Anonymous]

Op, you are bad at money management. I'm sure you would have the money if you had known how to invest.
My parents are much poorer than I but extremely good with using what they have, which means I don't have to support them.
Mom is the bank of the village. People hardly ever pay back though.

[Anonymous]

Sweetie. You shouldn’t be supporting your parents. Worry about yourself.

[Anonymous]

Without the willingness to face/discuss numerical facts, we will assume that independently your income supports your expenses. That's all that is, bottomline, necessary. Your parents are adults. Unless they are some odd outliner, they are supporting themselves.

[Anonymous]

Supporting one's parents is leveling up in your game? Not in mine. My parents have enough money to care for themselves.