If you married a former serial cheater who cheated on everyone but you?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever worry he will cheat again? Does he keep lying to you since he was always a habitual liar? Why do you think he's never cheated on you?

[Anonymous]

lol, only an idiot would do that

[Anonymous]

I know one guy like this, but they aren't married. He's related to DH otherwise I wouldn't choose to have contact with him. He's cheated on every partner he's ever had. Idk if he has cheated on his current live-in-GF but I wouldn't be surprised. She posts a lot on instagram, and it varies between "stay away from my man, I'll cut a b*", and "if he loved you he wouldn't stray", and lovey dovey pics of them or the flowers or new iphone he just bought her.

It just reminds me of that possum meme "dont touch my garbage!"

[Anonymous]

I don't have any personal anecdotes, but I believe people can change. Sometimes bad marriages bring out the worst in people. I refuse to believe that repentance in whatever form you take it can't work or that we are nothing more than our past mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever worry he will cheat again? Does he keep lying to you since he was always a habitual liar? Why do you think he's never cheated on you?

Why does this only apply to men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have any personal anecdotes, but I believe people can change. Sometimes bad marriages bring out the worst in people. I refuse to believe that repentance in whatever form you take it can't work or that we are nothing more than our past mistakes.

I agree with all this and I still would not marry a former serial cheater because I think he'd probably cheat on me like he did everyone else. I believe in redemption but I'm not in charge of being anyone's redemption. They can go find a woman who was a serial cheater and they can redeem themselves together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have any personal anecdotes, but I believe people can change. Sometimes bad marriages bring out the worst in people. I refuse to believe that repentance in whatever form you take it can't work or that we are nothing more than our past mistakes.

I agree with all this and I still would not marry a former serial cheater because I think he'd probably cheat on me like he did everyone else. I believe in redemption but I'm not in charge of being anyone's redemption. They can go find a woman who was a serial cheater and they can redeem themselves together.

Yeah, I could maybe deal with someone who cheated once and there was an external explanation (which was not likely to recur) and rhey did aome soul searching. But a serial cheater? That's not a mistake, that's a choice and a personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have any personal anecdotes, but I believe people can change. Sometimes bad marriages bring out the worst in people. I refuse to believe that repentance in whatever form you take it can't work or that we are nothing more than our past mistakes.

No, people at their very core do not change. They may work hard and want to change but under certain circumstances they will eventually react as they have in the past.

[Anonymous]

Delusional.

[Anonymous]

So even if a woman keeps the man happy in bed he'd still cheat and explore other options when married and had a cheating past?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So even if a woman keeps the man happy in bed he'd still cheat and explore other options when married and had a cheating past?

Yes… That’s me. Get sex all the time at home, but there were times I went outside the relationship for something different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So even if a woman keeps the man happy in bed he'd still cheat and explore other options when married and had a cheating past?

Yes… That’s me. Get sex all the time at home, but there were times I went outside the relationship for something different.

Yes. This is quite common in long marriages, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

My friend did. He cheated and now they’re divorced.

[Anonymous]

OP, there is now real way to know if the serial cheater has not cheated on the current s/o. I agree with PPs.. serial cheaters don't change at heart. A one time thing due to personal issues, marital conflict, I can understand, but a serial cheater is just that.. serial cheater. This is not some romance novel where the serial cheater finally finds "the one" and stops cheating all of a sudden.

[Anonymous]

Men change when their P is no longer working that well. A guy I know had 3 wives cheated on all of them. He stopped on wife #4 who was 30 years younger (he married her when he was 65)