Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband left me after 14 years. He had an online corn add!ction, and put us into tens of thousands of dollars in debt. He didn't pay our mortgage for a year, didn't pay my medical bills, took out credit cards in my name. My house was sold at a sheriff's auction, and my credit score was 485. (Yes, I should have known, but he was a VP at a bank and had a degree in finance. We had mutually agreed that he would handle the finances - division of labor.)

I got a good therapist and an even better lawyer; I cried with some friends, and I journaled a lot. The only way that anyone on SM would have known was that I changed my name on FB the day that the divorce was final.

How I ever managed to navigate all of that without this manifesto is a mystery.

I just want to send you lots of hugs for making it through that storm and surviving. My daughter went through a similar situation with 4 kids under the age of 10 and a husband that left their lives in absolutely ruins. I haven't been in that situation, but I certainly understand it. You are the real warrior!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband left me after 14 years. He had an online corn add!ction, and put us into tens of thousands of dollars in debt. He didn't pay our mortgage for a year, didn't pay my medical bills, took out credit cards in my name. My house was sold at a sheriff's auction, and my credit score was 485. (Yes, I should have known, but he was a VP at a bank and had a degree in finance. We had mutually agreed that he would handle the finances - division of labor.)

I got a good therapist and an even better lawyer; I cried with some friends, and I journaled a lot. The only way that anyone on SM would have known was that I changed my name on FB the day that the divorce was final.

How I ever managed to navigate all of that without this manifesto is a mystery.

I just want to send you lots of hugs for making it through that storm and surviving. My daughter went through a similar situation with 4 kids under the age of 10 and a husband that left their lives in absolutely ruins. I haven't been in that situation, but I certainly understand it. You are the real warrior!

I absolutely agree! The poster above who went through hell--I also send you much admiration for making it through.

[Anonymous]

I signed up for her email. This is the first one I got.

Hi Friend,



I first met Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom the way most normal people do — under the bright lights of an Oprah special. What in the world.

I had the honor of sitting on a panel alongside Rebel Wilson, Amber Riley, Katie Sturino, Jamie Kern Lima, Busy Philipps, and others to talk about diet culture, the shame we carry around our bodies, and how we can shift the conversation toward acceptance.
But the entire room was gobsmacked by Tressie — because of course we were. She’s a brilliant cultural thinker, a professor at UNC Chapel Hill, and one of the sharpest minds out there on everything from racial capitalism to beauty standards to the broken systems we navigate every day.

I knew instantly she had to be on the show. And today's the day.

Tressie is bringing her signature wisdom, wit, and clarity to the podcast, and trust me — you don’t want to miss this conversation.
"I’m really attracted to those things where our beliefs are totally counter-intuitive, where our gut is telling us something is there but the picture is fuzzy, and I think I’m attracted to that because my path was so abnormal and so unique and I know that I wouldn’t have existed if people had just gone along with what was supposed to be."



– Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the generic version of Glennon Doyle’s Untamed.

And Untamed is already unmitigated garbage...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am past the point where I subject myself to viewing Jen Hatmaker videos but based on what was posted here, I peeked. Couldn't finish.

How are people buying this fake AF peformative nonense? Rhetorical question, I know, I know.

She is really teasing the tea in hope she'll sell some books, isn't she.

I find her a fascinating study. I can't get people to engage with my blog as much as I'd like, and somehow she says absolutely nothing of value and still gets tons of attention. There's got to be something I can learn from her.

Well, if your blog is offering substantial content, then it probably will attract less people because reading it requires intellectual effort. Jen seems to mostly offer fluff and flattery, which I'm sure a lot of women are very susceptible to.

[Anonymous]

What is racial capitalism? For the love. Gonna go check out Dr. Tressie's cred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is racial capitalism? For the love. Gonna go check out Dr. Tressie's cred.

Jen just throws out buzz words in an attempt to sound smart that I'm sure would collapse in a heap of inanity and foolishness upon even the most gentle of pressure.

Racial Capitalism: How “capitalism” is “racist” and how I’m a total ally in addressing this with my constant shilling and efforts at selling useless crap to vulnerable women, who are mostly white.

[Anonymous]

Acting like a victim all the time has got to be EXHAUSTING. And miserable.
What a terrible life to live.

[Anonymous]

She needs to get some help. Seriously. It’s just overly weird. I mean, we all have our idiosyncrasies and weird little things about us, but she’s just out there, man. How didn’t he ever even become a thing? There are so many other folks, who are smarter, funnier, more charismatic, nicer (she’s not really that nice— I knew her back in the early 2000’s at Austin New Church), etc, and yet she has managed to do fairly well to some degree. We certainly don’t know how much debt she’s under but she had some success at some point. I swear— I’m trying to put two kids thru school, plan for retirement and working my ass off and she’s galavanting all over the freaking place. Again- I know it’s probably largely a big show but here we are just trying to digest and understand the weirdness of it all.

[Anonymous]

Brando- how do you go from some sappy, wussy preacher boy— to wanna be biker cowboy tough guy??? Inquiring minds want to know. I guarantee you homeboy doesn’t know how to change a tire or jump off a dead car battery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brando- how do you go from some sappy, wussy preacher boy— to wanna be biker cowboy tough guy??? Inquiring minds want to know. I guarantee you homeboy doesn’t know how to change a tire or jump off a dead car battery.

Mid life crises. He felt threatened by his ex wife’s success and had to demonstrate outwardly his power and masculinity. This explains the biker phase, the tats, the tougher edge. Hard exterior, butter soft interior. Feminine.

[Anonymous]

I was intrigued by Dr Tressie's book about the for-profit colleges, called Lower Ed. I read the sample first chapter and while the premise is very compelling (how people are exploited by the for-profit education system), her writing could run a bit dry, and the paragraphs went on forever. With a better editor, she could have had a much better book.

But, does Jen shill a for-profit school?

[Anonymous]

Is picking *extremely white* locations for your yearly Me camp, the same as “racial capitalism”?

[Anonymous]

Is picking *extremely white* locations for your yearly Me camp, the same as “racial capitalism”?

Drooble Harbor has entered the chat.

I actually enjoyed the parts of 7 when Jen did things outside of her comfort zone i.e. went into different parts of town to thrift stores and to Ethiopian restaurants. She had pleasant and kind of humorous encounters, and didn't write over-the-top tributes to them as heroes or victims- just kind, talented people working their businesses.

I'd love to see her have Me camp in Inglewood, Baltimore, Atlanta, or East St. Louis! Actually, I am officially commissioning Jane to write a alternate history of Me camp but what happens when she goes off the white grid!

[Anonymous]

Is including a previously unannounced detail about your husband’s affair (the phone call), in your new book announcement, to drum up interest and sell more preorders:
“divorce trauma capitalism”?