DH is FOTY all of a sudden..
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Anonymous
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DH has really kicked it into high gear with the parenting stuff the last few weeks. He’s always been a really high energy guy, but it’s mostly been directed toward work and his hobbies. Lately, though, he’s been on with the parenting. Tonight, I got home from work, and DH is working with our oldest son on his homework. DS (15) has been having trouble in school, and DH communicated with all of his teachers to see what they need from us. He also took vacation time next week when I’m off and set up in person meetings.
Just now, I got back from taking our daughter to ballet, and while I was gone, DH had gone out to get dry ice in order to do something he saw on a Mark Rober video with our middle and youngest son. They were doing the science experiment in the kitchen when I got back. I don’t know if this is a midlife crisis thing or the kids getting older or something else. Whatever it is, though, I love this guy, and I’m super impressed. |
Anonymous
| I'm glad you're happy with him. To me he sounds hyperactive and exhausting, and liable to drop everything for some shiny new project. Sometimes overreaction is not what's needed. |
Anonymous
Why be positive when you can bring someone else down, eh PP? |
Anonymous
Exactly! DCUM hags have a way of raining on every parade. |
Anonymous
| Yea he sounds more than a little nutty and too involved. |
Anonymous
| Sounds great, OP! |
Anonymous
| Maybe it's not a midlife crisis as much as the realization that his children are more than half way through their childhoods. |
Anonymous
Ask yourself why your instinct and very first reaction is to be negative. Do you have someone in your own life who tends to "drop everything for some shiny new project" so you think that's how others operate, too? So maybe you're projecting onto OP's situation here. No need to be so harsh on OP's good news. OP, good for him. Whatever the motivation -- maybe your son's troubles at school? -- your DH is stepping up and doing hands-on help. Encourage him to keep it up and tell him what you told us - that you're impressed! |
Anonymous
“Too involved” Wow were you not hugged enough? |
Anonymous
Calling all the teachers is the definition of too involved. He sounds like a nut case. |
Anonymous
| What does FOTY stand for? |
Anonymous
I’d give my right arm to be married to a guy like that. My H is as lazy and self centered as they come. Good on you OP! |
Anonymous
What do you want from me?!? My first sentence was that I'm glad OP is happy with this turn of events. I have a right to my opinion on the situation OP described. If she didn't want opinions, she wouldn't have posted. There is no expectation that you'll get only rainbows and unicorns on DCUM. And to answer another poster, yes, to me OP's description of her husband reads like a textbook hyperactive ADHD type. I know them well. And I've had a child struggle in school too, due to inattentive ADHD, and the answer has been an evaluation, IEP then 504, meds, tutors and executive function coaching from me. Not suddenly meeting with all the teachers and rushing out to get ingredients for a science experiment. I'd be worried that if your child's issues are long-term, OP, your husband will suddenly tire of his parenting hobby and switch to something else, leaving you with that burden... But regardless of what eventually transpires, OP, I am glad you're happy with him. And I mean that. We have to grab every moment of gratitude and joy in this world. |
Anonymous
| My DH knows that doing those things is a huge turn on for me. It’s not really but it’s still a win win. |
Anonymous
father of the year I'm guessing |