Please help me (job interview café)

[Anonymous]

Hi

I was asking for job application questions on here and you all were so helpful.
I applied this morning and just got an email inviting me for an interview in only 3 days. It’s a small café. I’m meeting one of the owners.
I’m numb with anxiety and I’m so nervous. I have issues with mental health (anxiety intense) which is why I’m so sensitive.

Please help me! It’s in 3 days at 4 p.m. I could just pass out. I have 0 confidence and know that I’m not pretty or cute. I’ve struggled with hair shedding and skin issues which just ruined my self esteem. I feel like the owner will judge me or turn me down because I’m not a pretty model-type or even cute girl. In 3 days I can be clean and have brushed hair, clean nails and clean clothes with clean teeth. But that’s it. I feel like I’m hideous (pretty sure it’s true).
Should I not go because she’ll judge me on being ugly or what? Do you please have advice for me on how to have a great interview? Thanks

[Anonymous]

Familiarize yourself with the place and the type of food. Just smile and be personable. Practice talking about yourself in a positive light.

[Anonymous]

Thank you.
I feel completely worthless-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you.
I feel completely worthless-OP

I know its hard, but you've gotta stop with that. Are you in therapy?

[Anonymous]

What kind of a job is it and what is your experience? Is this a remote job? I would expect the interview to take place in the office if they have one.

I get nervous on interviews too. It sounds like you are taking the steps to be well groomed. Your attitude and answers are more important. What I did was I googled common interview questions relevant to that field and pasted them into a document. Then I thought about my answers. I wrote some notes of things I could say for each question. Then I practiced by looking down at the questions, then look up, NOT reading the answers but rephrasing it in my own words, so I was more spontaneous. I recorded myself and then listened to it. It would be easier of course if you could just do that with another person.

Make sure you have a couple of points you know you want to bring up and try to figure out how to work them into the answers. It could be about your volunteer work, your enthusiasm, an educational achievement, prior work experience.

I'm not saying for you to sound overly rehearsed. You just don't want to hear a question and then be surprised and start going "ummmmm." You want to have your go-to stories and points you want to hit, that are flexible enough that they can answer several of the most common questions, so that you always have something you can say with confidence. Try to smile and look confident. I know it is hard, with your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

You need an interview with a mental health specialist. You need to relax. It’s freaking coffee.

[Anonymous]

You’re not interviewing to be a model.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not interviewing to be a model.

+1

As a manager, I want someone to work for me who will do a good job, is personable and reliable.

[Anonymous]

Try to act confident and believe in yourself. If you are self conscious about your hair, wear a cute headband or scarf/bandanna folded into a headband in your hair. Wear fun earrings and light to moderate makeup. Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself. Walk in with your head held high. If you want this job, express yourself to let them know you are a great candidate.

[Anonymous]

Thanks but I have been bullied in the past without me even provoking someone.
And I looked up the owner she’s over 10 years older than me but still young (she’s 36). And she is really beautiful and seems like someone who wants to hire someone like her..
Im really nervous and scared I’ll be rejected for the reasons I’ve been bullied -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you.
I feel completely worthless-OP

I know its hard, but you've gotta stop with that. Are you in therapy?

I really think she’s gonna judge me though. She hasnt seen me just emailed. No im not in therapy i have to though. -op

[Anonymous]

If you don’t get the job, you are no worse off than you are right now. So there’s nothing to lose, only something to gain. If it doesn’t work out, it’s still good practice for the next interview. Stop making assumptions about the owner based on appearance; you don’t want anyone to do that to you. No one knows you were bullied; so forget that. Carry yourself like the person you want to be (aka, fake it till you make it). Maybe practice with someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t get the job, you are no worse off than you are right now. So there’s nothing to lose, only something to gain. If it doesn’t work out, it’s still good practice for the next interview. Stop making assumptions about the owner based on appearance; you don’t want anyone to do that to you. No one knows you were bullied; so forget that. Carry yourself like the person you want to be (aka, fake it till you make it). Maybe practice with someone.

Thanks. My mind is tortured with what could happen thats negative

[Anonymous]

The worst thing that can happen is that you don't get the job. It's all upside from there. And there are a lot of reasons that might be besides what you are thinking.

You are already thinking of ways to make yourself feel clean, groomed, and professional. Get to the appointment a little bit early so that you are on time. Before you get near the door to go in, take a few deep breaths to reset and calm yourself, draw your mind to your feet standing on the ground and really feel them touching the ground. Bring your mind to your knees and really feel them. Feel your shoulders. Take a few more deep breaths. Try to stay in that calmer state and go in.

Focus only on your conversation not the conversation in your head. There will be plenty of time for that after. Just stay in the present with her. Be yourself. That's all you can do. Then what happens will happen. Good luck and I really hope it goes well for you!

[Anonymous]

Thanks so much . Being gen-z where everything is so focused on social media and looks is really hard cause im so sensitive - op