Husband told me he hates me and mocked me

[Anonymous]

We were driving to get lunch together and he realizes he missed a call from someone he has been waiting for. He starts yelling “F*ck! F*ck!” I don’t like when he loses his cool like this so I say, “ baby can you please calm down, it freaks me out when you do this.”

He snaps back that he calm and I need to stop! I say I am not doing anything. He tries to turn it onto me and says I am antagonizing him. He turns the car around and says he will drop me home. I say what are you doing? I wanted to get lunch. He says he doesn’t want to see me.

I sigh and say this is not normal and this is not ok. He yells that he hates me he hates me so much! I say ok you’re scathing me. He starts mocking me “ awww you’re scwawing me!!!”

At this point I don’t know what to say. I enter the house and he says “ i hate you go to hell”

… just a regular Monday afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Divorce

ASAP

[Anonymous]

Why tolerate this behavior? Leave. Get out. NOW

[Anonymous]

Call the police immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police immediately.

for what?

But, yea, your DH is mentally and emotionally abusive to you. This would be a deal breaker for me.

We've been married for 20 years, and we've had our share of arguments and frustrations with each other, but we have *never* said, " I hate you".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police immediately.

Call the police because her husband hates her? That's not a thing. He didn't threaten her and you can't arrest someone for mocking you.

Not sure why OP was "scared" - he said he hates you - he didn't say he was going to hit you.

All that to say - you should probably do something about being married to someone who loathes you and says it out loud.

[Anonymous]

I know you've learned to deal with this, but you should know my DH has never snapped, yelled, mocked or said anything rude to me in 20 years. Not once.
You don't deserve any of that. Relationships shouldn't have that ever, let alone regularly

[Anonymous]

Jesus how old are you guys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus how old are you guys

What's wrong with you?

I've heard a similar rant of hate from teenager to his girlfriend at the park when I was passing by.

Same advice for both couples. Cut your losses and split.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were driving to get lunch together and he realizes he missed a call from someone he has been waiting for. He starts yelling “F*ck! F*ck!” I don’t like when he loses his cool like this so I say, “ baby can you please calm down, it freaks me out when you do this.”

He snaps back that he calm and I need to stop! I say I am not doing anything. He tries to turn it onto me and says I am antagonizing him. He turns the car around and says he will drop me home. I say what are you doing? I wanted to get lunch. He says he doesn’t want to see me.

I sigh and say this is not normal and this is not ok. He yells that he hates me he hates me so much! I say ok you’re scathing me. He starts mocking me “ awww you’re scwawing me!!!”

At this point I don’t know what to say. I enter the house and he says “ i hate you go to hell”

… just a regular Monday afternoon.

I’m glad this isn’t an advice thread so I can ask this question—why did you marry a crazy person who does “this”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus how old are you guys

What's wrong with you?

I've heard a similar rant of hate from teenager to his girlfriend at the park when I was passing by.

Same advice for both couples. Cut your losses and split.

Normal adults don’t behave like this. You’re making my point.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have said anything while he was venting and let it blow over. Asking him to stop wasn't helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have said anything while he was venting and let it blow over. Asking him to stop wasn't helpful.

so.. it's the woman's fault that he emotionally/mentally abused her?

[Anonymous]

If no kid, leave asap. If kids, therapy stat.

[Anonymous]

I hope you don’t have kids with this loser.