3 sleepovers in a row?

[Anonymous]

Would you allow your daughter to sleepover at a friends if it would be the third night in a row?
We hosted a group Friday night, another friend had one Saturday and now DD, 12, is asking to sleepover at another friends house tonight. DH an and I both said no. She needs good sleep even though there is no school tomorrow and of course now she is very upset because her travel softball prevents her from weekend sleepovers as she has early play both Saturday and Sunday most weekends and we don’t allow sleepovers the night before.

She is a great kid who does work around house and makes good grades but the social life is taking center stage right now. I guess I am just looking for feedback that most parents would say no to this right?!

[Anonymous]

I would say no.

[Anonymous]

Given that she can almost never have sleepovers, I'd say yes.

[Anonymous]

We have a one sleepover a week maximum.

[Anonymous]

I should clarify that she does do sleepovers on the weekends she doesn’t have tourneys but that is about once or sometimes twice a month. October only has one weekend free.

[Anonymous]

No. I would never allow two in a row. My daughter loves them and they are hard to fit in with sports so I get it, but no way can she do them back to back. Three would be out of the question.

[Anonymous]

As long as she's getting enough hours of sleep and isn't grumpy in the daytime, sure. We'd phrase it as "Yes, but don't think this is how things will be going forward. This is a special sleepover streak."

[Anonymous]

I know a teen who had sleepovers ALL the time.
She was a stellar student, too. But most parents I know do not allow this, and we certainly do not. It's one sleepover a month in our house! We don't like our schedule to be that chaotic, and as you said, the sleep disruptions are just not optimal.

[Anonymous]

Not on a school night. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not on a school night. Nope.

It’s not a school night. Work on reading comprehension

[Anonymous]

Why not? It doesn't sound like it would interfere with anything she needs to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not? It doesn't sound like it would interfere with anything she needs to do.

Ugh. This is why I’m leaning towards yes. But my DH is a hard no because he thinks the cumulative lack of rest will catch up with her and she’ll be cranky and more likely to get sick after three days of it. I’m pretty easy going usually though and if it were just me, I’d let her. Not sure I want to have the parenting battle so was looking for confirmation that most would say no.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. She needs rest. She's learning the sacrifice of travel sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not? It doesn't sound like it would interfere with anything she needs to do.

Ugh. This is why I’m leaning towards yes. But my DH is a hard no because he thinks the cumulative lack of rest will catch up with her and she’ll be cranky and more likely to get sick after three days of it. I’m pretty easy going usually though and if it were just me, I’d let her. Not sure I want to have the parenting battle so was looking for confirmation that most would say no.

This is where I would come down on this (with your DH) because the lack of sleep really affects my kid. Mine also plays travel softball and while that makes me want to say yes, it actually goes in the no column. She gets so little sleep most tournament weekends. We always seem to get the early games, especially on Saturday. She just knows sleepovers are mostly a winter thing. She did have one last night because our tournament was rained out but three in a row would turn her into an absolute monster.

[Anonymous]

I totally understand- same thing here with the travel sports. But- 3 nights in a row is too much IMO. After 2 (likely) nights with little sleep, best to get a good night’s sleep tonight and on track for the school week ahead- & also get some family time in.