I hate Homecoming time of year
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Anonymous
I hate this time of year. My DS has zero friends (I have posted about this many times) and I just hate, hate, hate this time of year when Homecoming is at hand and my DS has yet another thing to miss out on. He has asked a few acquaintances if they are going and they told him no (probably not true). Just venting because I get so sad hearing/seeing all the Homecoming prep and photos and knowing how much by DS struggles even trying to make any friends let alone having some right-of-passage type event to go to. 
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Anonymous
| Why doesn't he have friends? |
Anonymous
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Ugh. That sounds painful. Try to turn off all Homecoming-related news. Plan to do something with your DS that night, like seeing Gran Turismo or something like that. Get giant quantities of fries and wings and ice cream.
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Anonymous
| I hate that my kid's school doesn't have a homecoming dance. Some county schools do and some don't. Not sure how that works. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry. I blame the internet for turning this into a thing for you, and likely for others. I didn't go to my junior prom, for different reasons, and I didn't have to see pics of anyone or hear much about it and that was that. But now we all see pics of everyone else and hear about it on text threads and it's a lot!
I agree with the idea of doing something different--maybe even take a little road trip if you can afford it. Go someplace pretty; see a play or a sporting event or walk in a new area of town. If you can't do the thing you want, want the thing you're doing. |
Anonymous
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My DD doesn’t seem to have any interest in going and I’m both concerned and relieved.
A friend at another school is going to miss her homecoming because of a soccer trip and wants to come to DD’s the next weekend but she really doesn’t seem interested. She’s always had more friends from non-school activities. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry OP. That is really hard.
I kind of dislike it as well. My kids will go but there are always parties that kids are either invited (or not invited) to. There's drinking and sex in the midst (or not). There is the silliness of asking a date (or not). It was fun freshman year because it was a novelty but now sort of feels like a (stressful) obligation to the kids. My kids go to single gender schools which I think makes this worse because they don't have friends of the opposite gender in their respective grades. I think if they were at coed schools they would just go as friends in coed groups and it would be no stress. |
Anonymous
| Hmm. I feel like homecoming is barely even a thing now. My kids don't really care about it. |
Anonymous
| The internet ruined everything. It really did. |
Anonymous
My school where I grew up didn't do homecoming. I learned about it the same way European people do - from tv and movies. |
Anonymous
| OP’s son clearly has issues going well beyond Homecoming. Plenty of kids elect to skip things like that while also still having plenty of friends. |
Anonymous
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You know what? Homecoming and prom are WAY less popular than they used to be.
I have three kids (17-22). They each went to homecoming once. None of them went to prom. They have a few friends and their friends aren't into it either. |
Anonymous
Why go out when you can stay home and snap all night instead |
Anonymous
DCUM doesn’t allow Snapchat. They told me so. |
Anonymous
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I didn't go to homecoming. My dd went one year and isn't going this year.
And fwiw just because they have plans and go, they're not all having fun. Some are very stressed by the whole rigamarole. I get why you are sad for your kid, but it won't define their life. |