laughing and hitting/touching you

[Anonymous]

How normal do you think this behavior is?

A long time ago in a social setting where a bunch of moms were laughing about a story, one of the moms was laughing and sort of gently slapped my leg twice. I understand doing this with maybe your family, friends, siblings but I didn't know the mom that well.

Would you consider this odd? Or that she was having a rip roaring good time and needed someone to "slap".

[Anonymous]

I'd let it go. I've met all sorts of people from all walks of life and many different countries, and sometimes people have done surprising things, without meaning to be rude.

[Anonymous]

Why are you using the words “hitting” (in title) and “slap”? Did she hit or slap you? That’s a bit much but I would not get upset about it. I’ve gotten pats from friends on arm or leg when laughing but not someone I didn’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How normal do you think this behavior is?

A long time ago in a social setting where a bunch of moms were laughing about a story, one of the moms was laughing and sort of gently slapped my leg twice. I understand doing this with maybe your family, friends, siblings but I didn't know the mom that well.

Would you consider this odd? Or that she was having a rip roaring good time and needed someone to "slap".

So you can understand what she was doing. In fact you know exactly what she was doing, and you just think she was being too familiar with you by doing it. Okay, that's fine. But that's not really a reason to try to frame the story as though you were assaulted. Are regular people turning into clickbait journalists on this site or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

I am very sensitive to unwanted touching, especially from people I don't know well, and I don't think this would really bother me. I'd notice it because people don't touch each other that way very often, but it seems pretty unequivocally friendly and not sexual or violent, so I think I'd find it a little overly forward but not upsetting.

[Anonymous]

sounds like she thought you were friendlier with each other than you are.

[Anonymous]

This happened “a long time ago”…why bring it up, does it bother you still?

My guess is a combination of 1) she’s a touchy-feely hugger type, 2) she had a glass of wine, and 3) altho she didn’t know you well at first, she was having a lot of fun & felt that she was bonding with all of you.

[Anonymous]

How long ago did this happen and why are you still thinking about it? That’s the weird part of the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you using the words “hitting” (in title) and “slap”? Did she hit or slap you? That’s a bit much but I would not get upset about it. I’ve gotten pats from friends on arm or leg when laughing but not someone I didn’t know.

It's a symptom of the black and white thinking on this board. There's no gray area, only consensual contact and assault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you using the words “hitting” (in title) and “slap”? Did she hit or slap you? That’s a bit much but I would not get upset about it. I’ve gotten pats from friends on arm or leg when laughing but not someone I didn’t know.

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/thigh-slapper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How normal do you think this behavior is?

A long time ago in a social setting where a bunch of moms were laughing about a story, one of the moms was laughing and sort of gently slapped my leg twice. I understand doing this with maybe your family, friends, siblings but I didn't know the mom that well.

Would you consider this odd? Or that she was having a rip roaring good time and needed someone to "slap".

And you just now decided to ask about it? It’s really been eating at you, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How normal do you think this behavior is?

A long time ago in a social setting where a bunch of moms were laughing about a story, one of the moms was laughing and sort of gently slapped my leg twice. I understand doing this with maybe your family, friends, siblings but I didn't know the mom that well.

Would you consider this odd? Or that she was having a rip roaring good time and needed someone to "slap".

And you just now decided to ask about it? It’s really been eating at you, huh?

Oops didn’t realize I was the 3rd to mention this. But it’s a very relevant point.

[Anonymous]

You are too sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Are you another mom, or are you male?

[Anonymous]

She was relaxed and enjoying herself, you weren't and it sucks when people's moods misalign. Some have more familiarity with friends than family