What if the elderly parent's house is more luxurious than the adult child's house?

[Anonymous]

I've seen a lot of comments on here about about adult children moving their parents in with them. What I can't understand is why an elderly parent would have a problem with their own house. I mean, my parents live in a 4-bedroom house and I live in a 1-bedroom apartment, something which I never plan to change, as there's a lot of responsibility with owning a house. Now, if my parents' house burned down or was taken away from them for some reason, I would absolutely squeeze them in with me. But I could never understand my parents preferring my apartment to their house.

[Anonymous]

Different people have different options and make different choices.

No one is the same.

[Anonymous]

Is the question about you moving into your parents' house? Sure, some people do that. The parents may even sell the house to the kid but remain living there.

Eventually that 4 bedroom house will be too much for your parents to handle. They will downsize. If you had space for them they might move in with you, but people whose kids don't have multi-bedroom houses generally don't move in with their kids.

[Anonymous]

If and When grandkids come into play everything changes. May not apply to your situation.

[Anonymous]

A four bedroom house is incredibly difficult and time consuming to keep up with general maintenance and cleanliness, particularly as you get older. If you’ve only ever lived in a one bedroom apartment as an adult, this is something you wouldn’t understand. So, no, I don’t think your elderly parents would actually want to move in with you, but at some point they might want to live somewhere easier for them to manage.

[Anonymous]

When people say they are moving their parents in with them, they don't typically live in one bedroom apartments.

Was that not obvious?

[Anonymous]

Also stairs become very difficult as you age. My in-laws are really struggling with their split level house right now. They don't want to move, but they have already suffered several falls.

[Anonymous]

It's because of the stairs. Or because the parents live far away and the adult children don't want to quit their jobs.

[Anonymous]

It is always so shocking to me when people like OP are so self-absorbed that they can't see that everyone's situation is different.

But, let's say for instance, one parent has alzeheimer's and broke his leg and can't remember that it is broken so keeps standing up and rebreaks his limbs and then his neck. And the other parent can't handle the stress and is getting scammed while trying to take care of the property and the person at the hospital and can't keep up with any of it. That is why I'm meeting with a realtor right now to sell a 4 bedroom house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people say they are moving their parents in with them, they don't typically live in one bedroom apartments.

Was that not obvious?

+1 This was not a tough thing to decipher, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people say they are moving their parents in with them, they don't typically live in one bedroom apartments.

Was that not obvious?

Heh yeah - I don't think those people are moving their parents in with YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A four bedroom house is incredibly difficult and time consuming to keep up with general maintenance and cleanliness, particularly as you get older. If you’ve only ever lived in a one bedroom apartment as an adult, this is something you wouldn’t understand. So, no, I don’t think your elderly parents would actually want to move in with you, but at some point they might want to live somewhere easier for them to manage.

My parents have a 4 bedroom house. They do not use all the space obviously, but they have kept their home pretty minimalistic in terms of possessions, and so they do not have a problem in keeping the house maintained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A four bedroom house is incredibly difficult and time consuming to keep up with general maintenance and cleanliness, particularly as you get older. If you’ve only ever lived in a one bedroom apartment as an adult, this is something you wouldn’t understand. So, no, I don’t think your elderly parents would actually want to move in with you, but at some point they might want to live somewhere easier for them to manage.

My parents have a 4 bedroom house. They do not use all the space obviously, but they have kept their home pretty minimalistic in terms of possessions, and so they do not have a problem in keeping the house maintained.

You have no idea what it is like to deal with elderly parents. Hopefully you never will. But you sound like a moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A four bedroom house is incredibly difficult and time consuming to keep up with general maintenance and cleanliness, particularly as you get older. If you’ve only ever lived in a one bedroom apartment as an adult, this is something you wouldn’t understand. So, no, I don’t think your elderly parents would actually want to move in with you, but at some point they might want to live somewhere easier for them to manage.

My parents have a 4 bedroom house. They do not use all the space obviously, but they have kept their home pretty minimalistic in terms of possessions, and so they do not have a problem in keeping the house maintained.

Oh FFS. It's a problem of keeping their bodies and minds healthy enough that they can safely live there. It's not even about maintenance really.

[Anonymous]

My parents have three beds three baths with a nice view. I have three beds one bath (all much smaller than theirs) with a view of the neighbors' houses.
I told my mother of course she could move in with me when the time comes instead of going to a nursing home and she asked "But it's not going to be this house, right? This is just your starter house. I was hoping you'd move somewhere waterfront."
I think the point OP is making is that many boomers especially are rather spoiled housing-wise and will be underwhelmed by their adult children's downwardly mobile lifestyles.