On mental health suicide crisis watch again (vent)

[Anonymous]

Ive called ahead to Newport Academy. That is where I am at. Last week I reached out to our local troopers who have been out twice in the past year or so.

DD is sleeping, we are not. We found activity on her phone indicating problematic behaviors and expressed thoughts, AGAIN, after having just made it very clear why certain things are not ok to be doing and she agreed.

My latest confusion is why she tells people "I cut my arms open, and now I feel better" when she did neither.

Or threatened it to me via text "Im cutting my arms open" when she wasnt. She texted me from the other room so I went right over.

Anyway no point in giving partial details to lead to questions I cant answer now. Too exhausted.

The years of therapy then meds and then suicide attempt and inpatient and PHP and now new therapist she loves. She has even confronted significant amount of issues, BUT she has a screen addiction and she doesnt see it. We have gone just about cold turkey and left her with only her phone with no data plan only the ability to text and she went straight to sex talk with a kid (verified kid) when explicitly told to stop this. So now the phone will get taken away.

And she will melt down. And likely she will make suicidal threats since that is what she does now anyway. Each time she does its like OK, lets go to the ER and she pulls it in. She won't be able to pull it in when she confronts the addiction. I mean I guess anything is possible, but I seriously doubt it.

NO end in sight. Progress and setbacks while she possibly just is getting sicker anyway.

Heartbroken.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, OP. I don’t have advice. I am just really sorry you are going through this hellscape.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hope you have better days ahead.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. Screen addiction is not our issue but self harm and suicide attempts have been our lives for the past six years. It’s exhausting and lonely. I hope you can get some rest and that you figure out a way to take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Most people with a “screen addiction” don’t have a screen problem. The screen is an escape from bad life. (In their opinion).

[Anonymous]

What is a “trooper”? I hope you don’t mean police, who are trained to kill people who threaten to use weapons.

[Anonymous]

BPD?

[Anonymous]

Im sorry! People can and do get better from this but I know it’s so hard. (In fact, the developer of dbt had borderline as a teen-not sore if that’s your daughters diagnosis but it sounds like it could be.) good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry, OP. I don’t have advice. I am just really sorry you are going through this hellscape.

+1 This is one of the hardest things a parent can go through. I’m sure this is taking a mighty toll on your own health and well-being. I’m praying for your whole family because I don’t know how else to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a “trooper”? I hope you don’t mean police, who are trained to kill people who threaten to use weapons.

How is this comment helpful? You've obviously never been in crisis and needed help

[Anonymous]

OP--have you considered an educational consultant? She's using screen time as a way to escape something. Until she addresses the underlying issue her behaviors will continue.

Try and be strong. This is so so hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a “trooper”? I hope you don’t mean police, who are trained to kill people who threaten to use weapons.

The police have been amazing in dealing with my mentally ill child. They have been a resource we could not live without. I agree with PP, you must never have had a real crisis or you would understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ive called ahead to Newport Academy. That is where I am at. Last week I reached out to our local troopers who have been out twice in the past year or so.

DD is sleeping, we are not. We found activity on her phone indicating problematic behaviors and expressed thoughts, AGAIN, after having just made it very clear why certain things are not ok to be doing and she agreed.

My latest confusion is why she tells people "I cut my arms open, and now I feel better" when she did neither.

Or threatened it to me via text "Im cutting my arms open" when she wasnt. She texted me from the other room so I went right over.

Anyway no point in giving partial details to lead to questions I cant answer now. Too exhausted.

The years of therapy then meds and then suicide attempt and inpatient and PHP and now new therapist she loves. She has even confronted significant amount of issues, BUT she has a screen addiction and she doesnt see it. We have gone just about cold turkey and left her with only her phone with no data plan only the ability to text and she went straight to sex talk with a kid (verified kid) when explicitly told to stop this. So now the phone will get taken away.

And she will melt down. And likely she will make suicidal threats since that is what she does now anyway. Each time she does its like OK, lets go to the ER and she pulls it in. She won't be able to pull it in when she confronts the addiction. I mean I guess anything is possible, but I seriously doubt it.

NO end in sight. Progress and setbacks while she possibly just is getting sicker anyway.

Heartbroken.

Does she have a diagnosis that you are willing to share?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry. Screen addiction is not our issue but self harm and suicide attempts have been our lives for the past six years. It’s exhausting and lonely. I hope you can get some rest and that you figure out a way to take care of yourself.

OP here. Yes, screen use disorder or addiction is both symptom and cause of somet things, but mostly coping poorly.

ADHD, Depression Anxiety. BPD dismissed, possibility of Borderline II, but that also doesnt fit. Some self harm and one attempt.

We all (including DD) think BPD is the big one which is why she is with a good therapist now.

SHOCKINGLY, she actually took the news that the phone is going away as well pretty well. Of course, my delivery helped, slow and deliberate laying out her progress and asking her to share what she felt about the internet and her screen use.

The benefit of that was that she clearly knows she has a problem.

[Anonymous]

OPhere, sorry, possibility of BIPOLAR II, but that doesnt fit and nothing changed with medication.