Going to my sisters baby shower today

[Anonymous]

Apparently I’m hosting the games. This is my younger sister who got pregnant at first try 5 months after marriage. I want to cry. I’ve been a mess since yesterday.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. When I have been struggling to conceive, days like that have been torture. I wish you a peaceful day. You will get to the other side. One foot in front of the other.

[Anonymous]

Oh that’s so hard! Can you get out of it? This is the downside to struggling in silence, but only you know if your sister is a safe person.

[Anonymous]

Op here. It was so hard. I was crying all morning and then burst into tears right after. It was a LOT. To see the reality of this moment for her that I have been imaging and dreaming of for years and years. To see her glow with pride and hold her bump. Her adoring husband, everyone showering her with presents. Pregnant not even 4 months after her wedding!

Meanwhile my husband was a nightmare. Cold and mean, telling me he can’t handle all my feelings and that it’s too heavy and too much. And that I am toxic for being jealous of my sister. And I’m ruining my own life. He hasn’t given me a single hug or made a single soothing gesture.

[Anonymous]

I'm so, so sorry. That is so hard.

[Anonymous]

Do not have kids with this man

[Anonymous]

You dont really know she got pregnant the first month. I tell people I did too but it took 4 months.

[Anonymous]

Hugs, OP. You made it through a really hard day.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

Maybe it’s a blessing you haven’t pro created with this guy. He doesn’t sound like a nice or sympathetic person.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of this man. Added bonus that it may increase your chances of having a child if the current issue is male factor infertility from him. Sorry don’t mean to sound cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dont really know she got pregnant the first month. I tell people I did too but it took 4 months.

Why do you do this? To sound more fertile? My best friend told me she got pregnant on her first try after she knew it took me 2 years. I’m happy for her, but why she thought I needed to know that was beyond me. It’s not like I asked her what position she was in when she conceived.

[Anonymous]

I think your infertility is a f'd up blessing in your case. Do not have children with this person! What a horrific husband/partner/future father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dont really know she got pregnant the first month. I tell people I did too but it took 4 months.

You are unnecessarily mean. What possessed you to post this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. It was so hard. I was crying all morning and then burst into tears right after. It was a LOT. To see the reality of this moment for her that I have been imaging and dreaming of for years and years. To see her glow with pride and hold her bump. Her adoring husband, everyone showering her with presents. Pregnant not even 4 months after her wedding!

Meanwhile my husband was a nightmare. Cold and mean, telling me he can’t handle all my feelings and that it’s too heavy and too much. And that I am toxic for being jealous of my sister. And I’m ruining my own life. He hasn’t given me a single hug or made a single soothing gesture.

Are you in therapy? It sounds like you are having a rough time (maybe your husband is too). If your spouse is your only emotional support, it may be too much for him. I don't think you should have to go to your sister's baby shower when you are struggling. If she is not a person who can understand why this is difficult for you, just tell her that you have a stomach bug.