I hate being a contrarian, but I can't seem to change

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with me? I swear that during every online conversation and half the ones I have in person, I walk away thinking the exact opposite of everyone else. I've done a ton of soul-searching over this. I've tried therapy, and multiple people have told me to just embrace being different. I don't think I'm that smart. Certainly not smarter than most people online. Is this some sort of mental illness? What's wrong with me?

Examples, since I know people will ask, though it's not really about the topics themselves.

1. My neighbors kill snakes. I've tried to explain why they're useful, to deaf ears.
2. I am the only person in my professional and preferred circles to fly my preferred airline.
3. I hate pockets. Every conversation that revolves women desiring them leaves me feeling like I don't belong.
4. Politics. It doesn't matter which sides I'm talking with or listening to, I disagree.

[Anonymous]

What are your DCUM positions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your DCUM positions?

Ha. DCUM is what made me realize I have a problem.

[Anonymous]

The pocket issue is a bell weather. So, no pockets in all clothes or dress clothes? I don’t like pants pockets in my suits. Definitely not in my skirts.

In my workout leggings, heck yeah I need pockets.

Explain your position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pocket issue is a bell weather. So, no pockets in all clothes or dress clothes? I don’t like pants pockets in my suits. Definitely not in my skirts.

In my workout leggings, heck yeah I need pockets.

Explain your position.

I have huge hips and don't need any extra fabric. That's what purses are for.

Women act like I murdered their dog when I say this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The pocket issue is a bell weather. So, no pockets in all clothes or dress clothes? I don’t like pants pockets in my suits. Definitely not in my skirts.

In my workout leggings, heck yeah I need pockets.

Explain your position.

I have huge hips and don't need any extra fabric. That's what purses are for.

Women act like I murdered their dog when I say this.

Some of us don't carry things around and simply need one small pocket. I also hide my phone in my bra when I'm out late night. My friend and I came from a bar late and night. she got jumped right behind me because she had a purse. I was feet in front of her and nothing happened to me.

[Anonymous]

I just can’t imagine feeling anything but amusement disagreeing with someone about something like pockets. I like pockets, you don’t, isn’t it grand that we are all different? You like United, I fly Southwest. How curious!

Killing wildlife that isn’t harming you is beyond the pale - some things are worth being passionate about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The pocket issue is a bell weather. So, no pockets in all clothes or dress clothes? I don’t like pants pockets in my suits. Definitely not in my skirts.

In my workout leggings, heck yeah I need pockets.

Explain your position.

I have huge hips and don't need any extra fabric. That's what purses are for.

Women act like I murdered their dog when I say this.

Some of us don't carry things around and simply need one small pocket. I also hide my phone in my bra when I'm out late night. My friend and I came from a bar late and night. she got jumped right behind me because she had a purse. I was feet in front of her and nothing happened to me.

Yeah, I get it. I'd still rather have no pockets and carry a purse.

See?

[Anonymous]

I fail to see the problem. Just accept that different strokes are for different folks? If you're rude about these things, then yes, you need help and need to change. But if you're just politely asserting your different opinion or making a mental note, then it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Are you a lawyer by any chance? My spouse is and always has to give the contrarian view when I give an opinion or even when I state something I happen to know is factual. It's annoying!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fail to see the problem. Just accept that different strokes are for different folks? If you're rude about these things, then yes, you need help and need to change. But if you're just politely asserting your different opinion or making a mental note, then it's fine.

Not rude. Just sad I can't see the prevailing opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a lawyer by any chance? My spouse is and always has to give the contrarian view when I give an opinion or even when I state something I happen to know is factual. It's annoying!

Nope, not a lawyer. This would make sense!

[Anonymous]

The problem is not your disagreeing with people, but that you care about whether you are disagreeing over these little things. Clearly people have different opinions about everything you stated, so what if you happen to be in conversation with someone taking an opposing view at the moment.

[Anonymous]

None of these things matter much either way. Except politics.

[Anonymous]

This is such a dumb thread. People disagree about everything. Evidence: DCUM. Evidence: all social media. Evidence: the political landscape.

One of my neighbors and my husband and pro-snake. Plenty of people prefer your preferred airline, or it wouldn’t exist, dummy!

Your opinions are not that special. Do you get that?