Annoying husband behavior

[Anonymous]

The dishwasher will be half full with CLEAN dishes and he'll add the dirty ones there with the clean ones. So not only does that waste money but we then have no clean dishes until the dishwasher is done. How freaking hard is it for him to unload (then load) a dishwasher once a week???

[Anonymous]

Yeah.

[Anonymous]

OP, why is the dishwasher only half full w/ clean dishes?

It has been years since my husband has emptied the dishwasher. He is getting so lazy that he just leaves his dishes in the sink now. Yes, this is just one of the many many things that aggravates me about him.

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Men belive that little elves live in the house and at night magically do laundry, dishes, put away kids toys, etc.

I asked my DH if he'd like to be in charge of laundry or dishes, and I'd do the one he didn't want. He opted for dishes. Anytime there are dishes stacked up in the sink I remind him that this is his job. He lets things stack up more than I would, but because he knows it's his job, he knows whether the dishes are dirty or clean. (And to be fair, I've let dry cleaning stack up to some pretty large piles--the only difference is that he doesn't notice so he doesn't say anything to me about laundry being my job.)

[Anonymous]

My husband doesn't do the half dirty/half clean thing.

HOWEVER -- he constantly re-engineers my loading of the dishwasher and "teaches" me how to load it in a more efficient way. "You'll find that it makes much more sense to put those yellow mugs on the top rack." You'll find it makes much more sense for me to remove your spleen through your rectum.

[Anonymous]

Get one of those flippable "Clean/Dirty" signs to hang on the dishwasher. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband doesn't do the half dirty/half clean thing.

HOWEVER -- he constantly re-engineers my loading of the dishwasher and "teaches" me how to load it in a more efficient way. "You'll find that it makes much more sense to put those yellow mugs on the top rack." You'll find it makes much more sense for me to remove your spleen through your rectum.

same . . .

I f-ing HATE it!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband doesn't do the half dirty/half clean thing.

HOWEVER -- he constantly re-engineers my loading of the dishwasher and "teaches" me how to load it in a more efficient way. "You'll find that it makes much more sense to put those yellow mugs on the top rack." You'll find it makes much more sense for me to remove your spleen through your rectum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get one of those flippable "Clean/Dirty" signs to hang on the dishwasher. Problem solved.

The only way this would solve the problem is if he doesn't actually know the dishes are clean. If her husband, like mine, DOES know they are clean, but simply doesn't care because unloading the dishwasher is way more work than he can bother to take on, it won't change a thing!

[Anonymous]

i wonder why the DW was half full with clean dishes anyway...
not the guy's fault for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i wonder why the DW was half full with clean dishes anyway...
not the guy's fault for sure.

This is how I imagine it happened. Feel free to add your thoughts or to change the scenario.

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Perhaps in the morning, OP was rushed and only put away HALF of the clean dishes (after running the DW the night before). So, in the evening, after dinner, when DH was "trying" to be helpful in his limited way, he mistakenly thought that b/c the DW was half empty, the remaining dishes had to be dirty. So he began adding the dirty dinner plates to the DW, thereby contaminating the rest.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. I'm so glad I'm not married. Men are such assholes.

[Anonymous]

HOWEVER -- he constantly re-engineers my loading of the dishwasher and "teaches" me how to load it in a more efficient way. "You'll find that it makes much more sense to put those yellow mugs on the top rack." You'll find it makes much more sense for me to remove your spleen through your rectum.

OMG! My husband does the same exact thing, and he has never put a dish in the dishwasher for as long as I have known him. He will put them in the sink which is right next to the dishwasher. I mean how hard is it to go a few more inches and put the dishes in the dishwasher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I'm so glad I'm not married. Men are such assholes.

I know it's not helpful at all but I feel exactly the same after reading page after page in thread after thread about dipshit husbands and annoying inlaws. When people ask me if I ever get lonely, I tell them I'm too busy enjoying the peace and quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i wonder why the DW was half full with clean dishes anyway...
not the guy's fault for sure.

This is how I imagine it happened. Feel free to add your thoughts or to change the scenario.

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Perhaps in the morning, OP was rushed and only put away HALF of the clean dishes (after running the DW the night before). So, in the evening, after dinner, when DH was "trying" to be helpful in his limited way, he mistakenly thought that b/c the DW was half empty, the remaining dishes had to be dirty. So he began adding the dirty dinner plates to the DW, thereby contaminating the rest.

that's one of the reasons why there's no half full DW with clean dishes in our home. the rule is - if there are dishes and the DW is not full they're considered dirty.
DH is not the brightest re house chores so to avoid annoyances and meaningless fights we just set our grounds where he's comfortable and we're all happy.
i stopped caring so much about how he stacks the bowls, how he places the silver in the drawers and i'm just very thankful that he'll do it at all.
you're all so flexible with your children and work, why not use this skill in your marriage also? it will make everybody happy.