The million things you need to improve
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Anonymous
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Anyone else feel this way? My kids are doing great, my family is doing great, yet I always feel like there’s a million areas I’m behind on what I “should” be doing. For example thoughts in the last 24 hours about my 3 kids
I need to… - work on their mealtime manners - get more variety back into their diets - spend more time reading to the 4yo - sit on the floor and play more with 2yo like I did when 6yo was little - work on bedtime routine so lights are o it when I attend them to be - teach the 4 and 6yo how to shower themselves better so I can more just check in - figure out a dinner routine where I can sit with them instead of being up and down a bunch to finish getting things on table - give them each chores that are specific responsibilities beyond the general helping they do today |
Anonymous
| All this and more. DC is 9. |
Anonymous
| Yes - but focus on one or two things every month - it will be easier to see accomplishment! |
Anonymous
| I feel this way. Right now I’m just treading water |
Anonymous
| You pick 2 things to focus on a month and the stress really goes away |
Anonymous
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Yes and I only have one.
But I also remind myself that it’s all a process and it’s not a travesty if, for instance, my kid stays up a little later in summer or is still a picky-ish eater at 9. It’s fine. No one is a perfect parent and there are no perfect kids. |
Anonymous
| I mean the minute you fix one of these things something else will pop up. That's kids- hell that's adults! There is no finish line, there is no perfect. |
Anonymous
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Yes.
But. It’s important to be able and willing to just turn this off for certain periods. I think at least one weekend day you need to leave yourself alone. |
Anonymous
This isn’t true!! I’m only four labels and a few baskets away!!!!!!!!!! I CAN TASTE IT!! |
Anonymous
| I think 4 is a bit young to be able to shower on their own. And we don't have everyone sit down for dinner until everything is on the table. |
Anonymous
| Just keep at it. Good for you for making the effort. It will be worth it. |
Anonymous
| Are you a single parent? If not, get your partner to do some of this. I have an 18 yr old and I've never really thought about a lot of things on this list. Take a deep breath. Pick one thing off the list. I'd pick reading to the kids. I'm a teacher and I always thought it was very important. It's a marathon, not a sprint so pace yourself. |
Anonymous
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Yes! I feel this! Also: update my will clarifying backup guardians since the sister I originally asked has since developed health issues, figure out why my ped’s payment site isn’t working, plan some fun excursions for the week we’re all off in August, what are we doing for Christmas/birthdays this winter, [insert very long list of work administrivia], etc.
I’m trying to roll with having a little too much on my plate/brain at all times and figuring we’ll all survive. |
Anonymous
lol! My family is perfect. My kids are perfect. When we sit at the dinner table with Bach playing softly in the background we only discuss the most intellectual of topics, like solving world hunger and global warming. My children sit straight and eat impeccably with a knife and fork, even the 3 year old. Nothing EVER goes on the floor. We’ve NEVER had meatball splatter on the window. My fresh baked cookies are always delivered to the school in a handmade basket tied in a bow. My husband and I are the picture of elegance and fitness. When I wake up my hair is perfect and my breath never smells. We are so perfect my kids all earn straight As at Big 3 and my dog bags her own poop. If only you do everything on your list and make those extra baskets. . . |
Anonymous
This. You need to be more realistic op. A 6 year old is too young too. |