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Anonymous
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Your child care provider constantly complains about your child when you pick him up or compares him to older kids that are easier to handle because they listen to directions and can walketc? My DS is 10mths old and is a great baby but he is 10mths old and has 10mths old issues---sometimes fussy, into everything, doesn't sleep well, snatches toys from other kids etc but overall is a happy baby with lots of exploring energy. Every time i hear the complaints, i want to say "he is 10mths old. You cant expect him to sit still alll day and just read a book" but maybe I am being defensive of my child.
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Anonymous
| Unless you're exaggerating, time to change providers!! |
Anonymous
ITTTTA |
Anonymous
| Unfortunately I am not exagerating. The complaints are fairly new and coincided with him starting to crawl. Prior to that his day reviews were always good. |
Anonymous
| Holy crap, run - do not walk to another daycare. That is unacceptable. If a 10 month old is a 'pain' this lady shouldn't be in the profession she is in... |
Anonymous
| How sad for your little boy!! This is a good reminder for those of us who are inclined to be jealous when our baby has a strong bond with his/her nanny/in-home daycare provider/center daycare worker. I'd so much rather that than a daycare provider who was annoyed by my baby!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Anonymous
I'd look for a new provider. My provider's only complaints were directed at me  (need to provide different shoes, different food, etc).
And she did sometimes compare kids, but it was more in a postitive, isn't it weird how kids are different way. I guess she did talk to one mom about a baby who wouldn't nap, but i think it was an attempt to try to work out a solution (did the baby need a lovey, did the baby nap at home). |
Anonymous
| yeah, that is inappropriate and confusing--has your provider never dealt with an older infant before? |
Anonymous
| My provider has two older kids (13 and 15mths) and sometimes a 19mths old boy (part time). My son is 10mths and was always fine till the crawling. But to be fair, he isn't a good napper so that's probably why he gets fussy. I would happily work with her on that issue but i find it upsetting that the complaints also have to do with "he doesn't stop moving". He "takes toys from this or that child". "He screams if i put him in the pack and play"--umm---of course he does. That's like a jail. Up until these last two weeks, we have loved her. |
Anonymous
| Start shopping for a new provider. I'd want to claw out her eyes. |
Anonymous
| I would be hearing alarm bells. I would at the very least say "You seem to be complaining a lot about Jack. I'm wondering if I should look for a new provider." |
Anonymous
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As a mom of a 10 month old, my son is as active as he can be and never stops except to nap... its non-stop (and I love every minute of it). But, she probably can't handle three-four that age.. most people can't and she wants him to just play, sit and entertain himself and that's not what you are paying for. Yes, there are times he needs to be safe and go in the pack and play - so she can make meals, change diapers, go to the bathroom herself... sometimes when I clean too but he has free run of our small living room - we baby proofed it big time and its his room now - but she should not be cleaning, etc so that's a non-issue and her house should be set up so the infants can roam freely and explore as that's how the learn to pull up, crawl and do those things at that age = that's how my son is - he just figures it out - we try to teach/show be he wants to do it on his own.
Time for a new provider. |
Anonymous
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Just curious - are the two others girls? There is a gigantic difference between my 15-month-old son and girls the same age and it started much younger. He is into EVERYTHING and does. not. stop. At one playdate in particular, I was stunned when he seemed intent on trashing my friend's house (I guess, at least, that he kindly pointed out the flaws in their babyproofing!) while the girls sat nicely playing with toys. It's the same at daycare; he's always on the go while some of the other kids are content to stay in one place or play with one thing for an extended time. Of course, this is a complete generalization about boys vs. girls, but it does sometimes ring true.
That said, I would also be really upset if the teachers were critical of or bothered by his behavior. It's all on the spectrum of normal at that age and your daycare provider should know that. Ours has never criticized our child or said anything that could be construed as being annoyed by or disliking him. |
Anonymous
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Oh my word, find a new provider. Your child isn't doing anything out of the ordinary.
But I'm also a little curious - is there 1 provider for 4 babies (under 2 year olds, that is)? That seems to be over the ratio for babies to caregivers. |
Anonymous
| I have never heard my baby's caregivers complain about my child or any other children! It would be a huge red flag to me. The only "complaints" I hear would be something like, "Oh, my, he's getting so heavy I can't carry him around anymore!" or "Poor thing just came back from vacation and he's all jet-lagged." Agree with all the other PPs that this would upset me as well and I'd look for another provider. |