Change my life by tomorrow morning

[Anonymous]

I can’t stomach the idea of going into the office tomorrow. I want to ghost my job. I can’t for financial reasons and I know it’s incredibly hard finding a new job without having a new one lined up already. But I have such extreme anxiety thinking about tomorrow morning and how I can’t stand wasting one more minute there. Help.

[Anonymous]

Call in sick.

[Anonymous]

Do you have any sick time to burn? Can you call in for the week? Take tomorrow to just do nothing, then spend the rest of the week really soul searching? Maybe with some job searching thrown in if you decide that’s really what you need to do?

Hugs, OP. I once spontaneously up and left a horrible job after a morning of mistreatment by two of my bosses. I took my lunch, came back and packed my things, then announced my immediate resignation. I also couldn’t swing it financially, but it all worked out in the end and I had a new job within the month that was enough to get me by until I could find a suitable replacement. To this day it was simultaneously one of the scariest yet exhilarating things I’ve ever done.

[Anonymous]

Suck it up. Take some melatonin to fall asleep easily tonight. Wake up early tomorrow to give you time to exercise and take a shower. Do it up lookwise. When you look good, you feel good. Go in tomorrow morning and the first thing you do is put in some vacation time.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP,
I've been there. I tried to comfort myself in any way I could. Planning a nice lunch on Monday, getting myself some flowers, etc.
These all help you crawl along.

Do you have a theoretical end date it mind? Are you doing anything to get yourself a new job. If not, don't just be depressed. Get angry and use that energy to take baby steps to your new life.

Also, get angry about the fact that this depressing job will end up shortening your life with the stress you are undergoing. Don't let that happen! Use exercise and eating well to counteract that effect, until you leave this job in the rearview mirror.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stomach the idea of going into the office tomorrow. I want to ghost my job. I can’t for financial reasons and I know it’s incredibly hard finding a new job without having a new one lined up already. But I have such extreme anxiety thinking about tomorrow morning and how I can’t stand wasting one more minute there. Help.

Quit in your own mind, and you'll be able to go to work. What I mean is that you commit, today, to an aggressive job search. Start now. With an end in sight you should be able to stomach work enough to keep a paycheck coming in while you find something else. Eye on the prize, eye on the prize ...

[Anonymous]

David Goggins. Go to his Instagram, listen to podcasts with him, listen to his memoirs (audio books).

[Anonymous]

Remind yourself that you GET to go to work, not that you have to go to work. It's not that your wasting time there, you GET to earn money in a nice cool office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any sick time to burn? Can you call in for the week? Take tomorrow to just do nothing, then spend the rest of the week really soul searching? Maybe with some job searching thrown in if you decide that’s really what you need to do?

Hugs, OP. I once spontaneously up and left a horrible job after a morning of mistreatment by two of my bosses. I took my lunch, came back and packed my things, then announced my immediate resignation. I also couldn’t swing it financially, but it all worked out in the end and I had a new job within the month that was enough to get me by until I could find a suitable replacement. To this day it was simultaneously one of the scariest yet exhilarating things I’ve ever done.

Thank you so so much PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t stomach the idea of going into the office tomorrow. I want to ghost my job. I can’t for financial reasons and I know it’s incredibly hard finding a new job without having a new one lined up already. But I have such extreme anxiety thinking about tomorrow morning and how I can’t stand wasting one more minute there. Help.

Quit in your own mind, and you'll be able to go to work. What I mean is that you commit, today, to an aggressive job search. Start now. With an end in sight you should be able to stomach work enough to keep a paycheck coming in while you find something else. Eye on the prize, eye on the prize ...

Thank you Pp. this is really really good advice

[Anonymous]

Sometimes when I don’t want to work, I bribe myself with a fancy smoothie and an awesome lunch.

[Anonymous]

Is there something extraordinary about tomorrow? Are you dreading a conversation or a presentation or a meeting or something?

Or are you just burnt out and/or done with it all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there something extraordinary about tomorrow? Are you dreading a conversation or a presentation or a meeting or something?

Or are you just burnt out and/or done with it all?

Same question, OP.

Also, is your workplace going to be extremely quiet tomorrow? Mine is because most of my colleagues are on vacation this week.

Knowing that I’ll work solo this week makes me incredibly happy! I’ll be flouting the dress code rules and will be (for me) super casual this week. That also makes me happy.

Something I always do: prep the night before to give myself leeway and less anxiety. Tonight, I will get out my entire outfit, shower, pack my lunch and work bag (charge my phone) and pack anything that needs to go to my office.

Tell yourself that tomorrow, you are not going to push yourself. Don’t work as hard. Take a lunch break. Work to the rule kind of thing. Re frame your own expectations.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. 2021/2022 was that for me. Stuck is a terrible business partnership with a horrible partner. It won't help you immediately, but I encourage you to think about taking a vision seminar. Helps you refind your inner passion for your purpose when someone has crushed you.

[Anonymous]

PP 18:10 and I was this close to resigning two weeks ago. I was on extended medical leave first for a parent, then for myself. Hadn’t been in to my office in two months. I know the anxiety you are feeling. I stayed up late the night before googling grad school programs and scrolling thru gig type jobs.

I went back to…crickets. So many out on vacation and my boss was so relieved I was back that I was basically told to catch up on emails and take all the time I need to settle in.

So, I did. Realized that the job isn’t so bad after all but am better prepared to cut and run and resign if things go awry. I’ve updated my resume - you should, too!