DC Kids holding values when surrounded by conservatives

[Anonymous]

I was just talking with a kid raised in DC in a multiracial home with friends from other races and lots of LGBTQ friends and family. The teen is going to attend college in a conservative part of the country in a few months. How do these DC kids raised here in a "bubble" where misogyny, racism, and homophobia are not tolerated do when confronted with this sort of thing in Red states or rural America small towns where it's common to make fun of people who are offended by this stuff? What's the best advice to give these teens? I doubt that many realize what they're about to step into, so warning or preparing them seems like a good idea.

[Anonymous]

What kind of values are they if you only have them when socially accepted? Tell these kids to learn what they really believe.

[Anonymous]

I actually think all you can say, is you're going to meet a lot of people who have had very different backgrounds than you. I happen to think this is good for everyone. That's part of college. They will have to figure out how to navigate their social, academic, and professional lives themselves. Let them know you're available to support them in any way they need support.

that said, I think where a lot of kids end up struggling is with freedom of speech. If you want to do a deep dive into a topic, this would be the one. Why are many forms of hurtful speech constitutionally protected. What does that mean (hint mostly it restricts the government's ability to regulate speech, it doesn't mean anyone is free to say whatever they want in any setting and suffer no consequence). Given the constitutional protection, what are the best strategies for responding to speech you find hurtful to yourself or others? Ignore it so as not to draw more attention to it? Counter protest? Shame the speaker you disagree with? Shout down the speech you disagree with. Look at what recently happened at Stanford law shcool. Note that if your kid is headed to a public school, it's a government entity and the constitutional protections afforded to speech of many kinds will quite strong.

[Anonymous]

I guess don’t send your kid to Bama if you are worried about this.

[Anonymous]

People tend to adopt the values of those they're surrounded with. Why else do you think parents are concerned about the crowd their kid is hanging out with?

We don't tend to question things like whether it's okay to call your neighbor's child a homophobic slur in places like DC. Instead, we are shocked by this and have a conversation with the kid's parents if something like this happens.

I know that I have to discuss things that the cousins say and do with my own DC in advance of visits back home to the Red state where I grew up. I don't want my kid coming back from a vacation using antisemitic slurs or using race terms that aren't acceptable back here in DC.

[Anonymous]

This is a troll post. OP is a LWNJ troll.

She already knows at all universities liberal professors outnumber conservatives 12 to 1.

Study after study confirm what even the most casual observer of higher education has long known — that conservative professors are vastly outnumbered by liberal ones — but they also show the problem is getting worse.

Published in Econ Journal Watch last month, one study looks at faculty voter registration at 40 leading universities and finds that, out of 7,243 professors, Democrats outnumber Republicans 3,623 to 314, or by a ratio of 11 1/2 to 1.
This study comes after a tumultuous few years at American colleges and universities, marked by campus race protests, the disinvitation of conservative speakers and the popularization of phrases such as “trigger warning” and “safe space.”



https://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2016/oct/6/liberal-professors-outnumber-conservatives-12-1/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was just talking with a kid raised in DC in a multiracial home with friends from other races and lots of LGBTQ friends and family. The teen is going to attend college in a conservative part of the country in a few months. How do these DC kids raised here in a "bubble" where misogyny, racism, and homophobia are not tolerated do when confronted with this sort of thing in Red states or rural America small towns where it's common to make fun of people who are offended by this stuff? What's the best advice to give these teens? I doubt that many realize what they're about to step into, so warning or preparing them seems like a good idea.

Your college-bound kid already knows what their values are, and they might not be your values. You are at least self-aware enough to realize that you live in a bubble, which is a good start. Now take a deep breath and land the helicopter and let your child figure out how to be a person in the world with their own values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll post. OP is a LWNJ troll.

She already knows at all universities liberal professors outnumber conservatives 12 to 1.

Study after study confirm what even the most casual observer of higher education has long known — that conservative professors are vastly outnumbered by liberal ones — but they also show the problem is getting worse.

Published in Econ Journal Watch last month, one study looks at faculty voter registration at 40 leading universities and finds that, out of 7,243 professors, Democrats outnumber Republicans 3,623 to 314, or by a ratio of 11 1/2 to 1.
This study comes after a tumultuous few years at American colleges and universities, marked by campus race protests, the disinvitation of conservative speakers and the popularization of phrases such as “trigger warning” and “safe space.”



https://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2016/oct/6/liberal-professors-outnumber-conservatives-12-1/

Where did OP mention faculty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was just talking with a kid raised in DC in a multiracial home with friends from other races and lots of LGBTQ friends and family. The teen is going to attend college in a conservative part of the country in a few months. How do these DC kids raised here in a "bubble" where misogyny, racism, and homophobia are not tolerated do when confronted with this sort of thing in Red states or rural America small towns where it's common to make fun of people who are offended by this stuff? What's the best advice to give these teens? I doubt that many realize what they're about to step into, so warning or preparing them seems like a good idea.

Grow up.

Most people do not talk about this 24/7 and have a life & let live attitude.

The kid will be fine.

Or do they like to preach and lecture others nonstop?

[Anonymous]

What do you mean “grew up in a house with lots of friends?”

Are they a foster child or illegal immigrant in a group home?

[Anonymous]

Exactly, PP. This is about peer interactions. Profs don't get into conversations with freshman about this sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was just talking with a kid raised in DC in a multiracial home with friends from other races and lots of LGBTQ friends and family. The teen is going to attend college in a conservative part of the country in a few months. How do these DC kids raised here in a "bubble" where misogyny, racism, and homophobia are not tolerated do when confronted with this sort of thing in Red states or rural America small towns where it's common to make fun of people who are offended by this stuff? What's the best advice to give these teens? I doubt that many realize what they're about to step into, so warning or preparing them seems like a good idea.

Yeah, warn them about everything you believe based on mass media so they can be paranoid, stressed out and questioning everyone. Yeah.

[Anonymous]

"What do you mean “grew up in a house with lots of friends?”"
Where I grew up, quotations are only used with the actual words stated by a person.

[Anonymous]

As somebody who grew up in one of those conservative small towns, I’m mostly concerned with the way you are trying to present them.

You are WAY off and you are setting these kids up with wild, untrue stereotypes. Everything you are accusing these unnamed small-town people of are things that you can find right here in the DMV.

The kids (if they exist and this isn’t a troll post) will likely find out that differing views exist, and that many people are able to coexist with people they don’t necessarily align with.

It happens all over the country.

[Anonymous]

You have taught them tolerance of different opinions, right? Then they’ll be fine.