Tell me about love bombing

[Anonymous]

Has this happened to you? I am trying to leave an emotionally abusive relationship and having a hell of a time dealing with all the sudden love bombing. I know that that's what this is but I can't get my mind and heart on the same page and I'm afraid of getting sucked right back into the cycle. What helped you finally break free?

[Anonymous]

Block and delete. Do not contact or engage.

[Anonymous]

Try to zoom out and think about what advice you would give a friend in your situation. What would you tell someone you love about this abuser? What would you want to see this person do in response to the love bomb?

Therapy will help you disentangle yourself.

[Anonymous]

Reread your post. You know what you have to do. You just have to stick with it.

[Anonymous]

I love you so much for asking this question. You are the best.

[Anonymous]

It's a ploy to play on your emotions to suck you in and get you hooked to him so you can give him what he wants: A huge ego boost because he thinks he's so clever and irresistible that you can't stay away and are devastatingly lost without him.

The best response is either straight up block and delete, or say you are busy (or "Meh, not interested") and block and delete. The point is that this guy has No Control over you in any fashion. His love bomb completely misses the mark with you. Disengage completely and he'll move on to the next target.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love you so much for asking this question. You are the best.

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[Anonymous]

This sounds like a made-up trendy therapy word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a ploy to play on your emotions to suck you in and get you hooked to him so you can give him what he wants: A huge ego boost because he thinks he's so clever and irresistible that you can't stay away and are devastatingly lost without him.

The best response is either straight up block and delete, or say you are busy (or "Meh, not interested") and block and delete. The point is that this guy has No Control over you in any fashion. His love bomb completely misses the mark with you. Disengage completely and he'll move on to the next target.

Thank you. This was helpful. I wish I was the type who could just block and delete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love you so much for asking this question. You are the best.

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Come on, PP! The poster is love bombing OP into cutting things off. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block and delete. Do not contact or engage.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a ploy to play on your emotions to suck you in and get you hooked to him so you can give him what he wants: A huge ego boost because he thinks he's so clever and irresistible that you can't stay away and are devastatingly lost without him.

The best response is either straight up block and delete, or say you are busy (or "Meh, not interested") and block and delete. The point is that this guy has No Control over you in any fashion. His love bomb completely misses the mark with you. Disengage completely and he'll move on to the next target.

Thank you. This was helpful. I wish I was the type who could just block and delete.

There is no "type" that does this, just do it. Yes, you may search your email's spam to see if there's something there for a while, but it gets easier over time. It's by far the best solution. Just do it and then you are that type!

[Anonymous]

I got love bombed while I had left and was pregnant. Worst mistake of my life was going back. It ruined me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a ploy to play on your emotions to suck you in and get you hooked to him so you can give him what he wants: A huge ego boost because he thinks he's so clever and irresistible that you can't stay away and are devastatingly lost without him.

The best response is either straight up block and delete, or say you are busy (or "Meh, not interested") and block and delete. The point is that this guy has No Control over you in any fashion. His love bomb completely misses the mark with you. Disengage completely and he'll move on to the next target.

Thank you. This was helpful. I wish I was the type who could just block and delete.

OP, I wrote the above from experience. I had earlier opportunities to block and delete but always wanted to give a second and third chance to "see what happens." Well, what happened was he took my willingness to have my boundaries trampled on as consent for him to push things more and more, until finally I had no choice but to cut him off because I became like a total clown. Do you want to be a clown? Of course not. By blocking and deleting you are not being mean. You are being kind to yourself, and maybe showing that guy he can't just trample all over everyone and get away with it with no consequences.

[Anonymous]

^^ This is the PP again. So the answer to your question is that it took not wanting to look like a total clown to make me break free. He tried to suck me back in but I told him I was busy but wished him the best for his future endeavors. The classic high road eff off. He hasn't bothered me since. Take the high road, girl and get as far from him as you can.