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are really bright kids harder to parent?
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Anonymous
| My mother was saying this to me the other day, and it has me wondering. My DD is extremely bright, but other child is smart but not in the same category. I would say the very bright one is my tougher, but that could be many things. Experiences from other parents in this situation (140 IQ, not a super genius or anything but smarter than me). |
Anonymous
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I think it's harder.
Look let's face it - they have the intellect to verbally spar with you from a very young age. So they do, especially because they don't have the life experience (and the fully developed pre-frontal cortex) to pull some punches and not have the last word. (I'm going to do something I can't stand, which is use my anecdotal experience as example, so sorry in advance!) I've met precious few high IQ kids currently in school who are "easy going." That's not to say they don't behave, etc. -- some do -- but none of them are laid back, mellow, go-with-the-flow kinds of kids. |
Anonymous
| Yawn |
Anonymous
I think you'll get a lot of replies b/c there are a LOT of DCUMs with genius kids! 
My super-smarty kid is my most difficult to parent, but I've never thought it was b/c of her intelligence. She's the oldest & the only girl, and she's just more high-maintenance/emotional than the boys & always has been. I've always attributed it to her being a girl, frankly, and to boys being easier from an emotional standpoint. She brings a whole lot more drama to the table than anyone else in the family, and she is a big limit-pusher (again, that's the job of the eldest child, isn't it?). I don't feel like she's "outsmarting" me, but she challenges in other ways. On the other hand, I guess her social maturity & emotional intelligence does allow me to talk through things with her on a higher level. |
Anonymous
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I think it comes down more to personality. Both my brother and I tested high on our IQ tests. However, I was the type of child who if you told me "don't move", I wouldn't move. I hated to upset anyone, loved to read, very well behaved, etc. My brother wasn't bad, but was curious about how EVERYTHING worked. He took apart countless things (clocks, etc), once took a hatchette to the trees in our front yard to see if he could actually "see" them grow, etc. He kept my parents on their toes and my mom in tears for a long time.
A friend of mine has a daughter who is incredibly bright. She just wants to read all the time and is no trouble. They joke that their house could fall down and the DD would not have a clue if she was reading. At kindergarten the DD knew all kinds of facts, etc. They have another DD, also bright, but this DD is a handful. She has a strong personality and gives her parents a run for their money. |
Anonymous
| My guess would be that it is easier in some ways and harder than others, depending on the kid. |
Anonymous
| my brighter kid according to iq tests has a more agreeable personality than my pretty bright kid. Pretty bright is dramatic and harder for me to parent. The main reason, I think, is the brighter kid has a personality / world view more like mine. I find it easier. I don't think it is an intelligence issue. |
Anonymous
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Gender and birth order play a role, FYI. |
Anonymous
| Actually, there is a lot of concern with very bright (genius-IQ level) kids being misdiagnosed with disorders like Aspergers, ADHD etc b/c they behave in ways very different from NT children. So yes, I do think they can be much more difficult to parent. |
Anonymous
| Dumb ones would have to be the hardest to parent I imagine... |
Anonymous
Yes, we can only imagine..... |
Anonymous
| My daughter is 1 and clearly very bright, and she is constantly thinking circles around the other kids at day care-- her teachers adore her but she is much more high maintenance. More interactive, more curious, gets into more trouble. I could never sit her down with a toy and expect her to play with it-- she always has her own ideas. Play time is chase time for ME. I think it's definitely harder raising a bright child, but then again I have never raised any other kind. |
Anonymous
| I personally can not believe this question is being posted. I agree w/ 13:40, that the 'not so bright' ones would be harder to parent because the parent is also struggling along with the child 'struggling' in school, etc. |
Anonymous
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My daughter is 1 and clearly very bright, and she is constantly thinking circles around the other kids at day care-- her teachers adore her but she is much more high maintenance. More interactive, more curious, gets into more trouble. I could never sit her down with a toy and expect her to play with it-- she always has her own ideas. Play time is chase time for ME. I think it's definitely harder raising a bright child, but then again I have never raised any other kind.
Ok, please tell me this is a joke. |
Anonymous
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"My daughter is 1 and clearly very bright, and she is constantly thinking circles around the other kids at day care"
WTF does "thinking circles" mean and why should I give a shit? |