Back to office, but coworkers aren't friendly anymore

[Anonymous]

Seems they decided it was ok to make it clear how much they hate everyone they work with in an attempt to block our RTO. Fair. But it's awkward being around them now. Anyone else going through this?

[Anonymous]

Some are less friendly. Maybe they just want to get things done during the one or two days they're in the office and don't want to waste time socializing.

Others are over the top chatty. Sometimes I have trouble getting them to leave me alone. It's like that's their only human interaction during the week or something.

I fall somewhere in the middle. It's nice to catch up with ppl I haven't seen in a while, but then I also have to get sh$t done.

[Anonymous]

I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

[Anonymous]

The issue is more they (multiple people) were vocal about hating everyone. It's awkward to be sitting right next to them now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

Yes. This is the issue. But as someone who struggles with rejection, how do I keep this from ruining my day when it's a very personal rejection? I know you dislike me...but that hurts.

[Anonymous]

Unless they said they hate you, specifically, I wouldn’t take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems they decided it was ok to make it clear how much they hate everyone they work with in an attempt to block our RTO. Fair. But it's awkward being around them now. Anyone else going through this?

Are you the crazy poster that doesn’t understand why your coworkers wish they could WFH, and that you’re allowed to buy they’re not?

[Anonymous]

Everyone has realized how pointless it is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

Yes. This is the issue. But as someone who struggles with rejection, how do I keep this from ruining my day when it's a very personal rejection? I know you dislike me...but that hurts.

seek therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some are less friendly. Maybe they just want to get things done during the one or two days they're in the office and don't want to waste time socializing.

Others are over the top chatty. Sometimes I have trouble getting them to leave me alone. It's like that's their only human interaction during the week or something.

I fall somewhere in the middle. It's nice to catch up with ppl I haven't seen in a while, but then I also have to get sh$t done.

I'm a little vengeful chatty right now (only with coworkers who feel similarly). You want me to spend an hour or two coming in to bond etc etc, rather than continuing to pump out work by myself on my laptop? Ok sure that's what I'll do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

Yes. This is the issue. But as someone who struggles with rejection, how do I keep this from ruining my day when it's a very personal rejection? I know you dislike me...but that hurts.

It only hurts because deep down you feel inadequate. If you felt great about yourself and the life you're living, you wouldn't care what they think.

I'm definitely less friendly, probably even unfriendly in the office now. But not because I hate anyone, but covid has changed everyone. Everyone is working through the trauma of the last three years and figuring out how to deal with it. WFH 5 days a week gave everyone a taste of a different life, what life could be like and it's weird going back. I don't think you can ever go back again mentally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems they decided it was ok to make it clear how much they hate everyone they work with in an attempt to block our RTO. Fair. But it's awkward being around them now. Anyone else going through this?

Are you serious? They sound petty, immature and passive aggressive.

If I'm the supervisor, I tell them to turn around their attitude pronto, or find a new job.

[Anonymous]

What's RTO?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

Yes. This is the issue. But as someone who struggles with rejection, how do I keep this from ruining my day when it's a very personal rejection? I know you dislike me...but that hurts.

seek therapy

For being hurt that people actively dislike me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm friends with neighbors and people from my hobbies so I have no desire to hear about my boring coworkers' lives. My supervisors are all schlubby losers as well so I probably give off a bad vibe as well when I'm in the office

Yes. This is the issue. But as someone who struggles with rejection, how do I keep this from ruining my day when it's a very personal rejection? I know you dislike me...but that hurts.

seek therapy

For being hurt that people actively dislike me?

Oh god, this response only emphasizes it. They don’t hate you, they just don’t care, which is fine.