Passive aggressive comments people made about your looks?

[Anonymous]

It really bothers me when someone, usually women, make snide comments about looks. It also bothers me when people talk in a foreign language in front of me. I've heard people call certain ethnicities dirty, dark, and gross by non white people. So when someone starts talking in front of me in a language other than English (I'm not white) it really bugs me.

Girl 1 in high school. Called out an Asian girl for wearing the same thing everyday. Maybe she was poor but that girl was uppity and mean.
Girl 2 in high school. Also an uppity co ck y mean girl who used to be slim. She got outrageously fat after 5 kids with different daddies. Called me short stuff and pushed me out of the way.
As an adult a girl at work in her 20s made a snide comment about dry hair when mine was very frizzy and dry (my hair is very curly) and Called it straw. She was another uppity girl who bragged she was from Spain.
As an adult another girl who had issues made a snide remarks about small butts when I passed by.
Now whenever a woman talks in front of me in a foreign language I assume she's saying something nasty


I find men just tell you in your face and bully more openly but why all the passive aggression?

[Anonymous]

My oldest daughter and I have been into fashion since elementary school. I’ve always told her that not everyone is into clothes and they’re happy to just wear the same thing everyday. I let her know to never ridicule someone’s looks or clothes.

I told her it doesn’t take much to complement someone on a new bag or shoes and can make someone feel good. Why not?

I think too many parents don’t think of saying these things because it doesn’t cross their minds. But these comments can be devastating to a child.

[Anonymous]

If you think someone is talking about you when they speak another language, you are insecure. I would try to work on that. WGAF what other people are speaking around you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really bothers me when someone, usually women, make snide comments about looks. It also bothers me when people talk in a foreign language in front of me. I've heard people call certain ethnicities dirty, dark, and gross by non white people. So when someone starts talking in front of me in a language other than English (I'm not white) it really bugs me.

Girl 1 in high school. Called out an Asian girl for wearing the same thing everyday. Maybe she was poor but that girl was uppity and mean.
Girl 2 in high school. Also an uppity co ck y mean girl who used to be slim. She got outrageously fat after 5 kids with different daddies. Called me short stuff and pushed me out of the way.
As an adult a girl at work in her 20s made a snide comment about dry hair when mine was very frizzy and dry (my hair is very curly) and Called it straw. She was another uppity girl who bragged she was from Spain.
As an adult another girl who had issues made a snide remarks about small butts when I passed by.
Now whenever a woman talks in front of me in a foreign language I assume she's saying something nasty


I find men just tell you in your face and bully more openly but why all the passive aggression?

Generalization much? I'm sorry you had traumatic experiences as a young girl but isn't it paranoid behavior to assume that everyone speaking a foreign language is a bad person saying something nasty? There must be people who are good or neutral and people who might be bad but not interested enough in you to make any comments?

[Anonymous]

I had a woman call me unattractive to my face recently. I was shocked along with everyone else at the gathering that I attended, but apparently insults are the norm for her. I don't care what people think of me. I am who I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a woman call me unattractive to my face recently. I was shocked along with everyone else at the gathering that I attended, but apparently insults are the norm for her. I don't care what people think of me. I am who I am.

I wouldn’t know how to respond to something like that. What did you do? Was she one of those old ladies who lost their filters?

[Anonymous]

As a foreigner, OP, I take exception to your suspicions of foreigners. I hope you understand that the immense majority of the time, no one is thinking or talking about you! I can see you've developed social anxiety over this, but please be reasonable.

The DC area is very international, due to all the visiting researchers and scholars, and people working for various agencies like the World Bank and the embassies. None of them are interested by your appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really bothers me when someone, usually women, make snide comments about looks. It also bothers me when people talk in a foreign language in front of me. I've heard people call certain ethnicities dirty, dark, and gross by non white people. So when someone starts talking in front of me in a language other than English (I'm not white) it really bugs me.

Girl 1 in high school. Called out an Asian girl for wearing the same thing everyday. Maybe she was poor but that girl was uppity and mean.
Girl 2 in high school. Also an uppity co ck y mean girl who used to be slim. She got outrageously fat after 5 kids with different daddies. Called me short stuff and pushed me out of the way.
As an adult a girl at work in her 20s made a snide comment about dry hair when mine was very frizzy and dry (my hair is very curly) and Called it straw. She was another uppity girl who bragged she was from Spain.
As an adult another girl who had issues made a snide remarks about small butts when I passed by.
Now whenever a woman talks in front of me in a foreign language I assume she's saying something nasty


I find men just tell you in your face and bully more openly but why all the passive aggression?

Someone in your high school had five children? How old was she when she had the first? Seems like the police should be involved and you should have some perspective.

Nobody is talking about you in other languages. Four comments over the course of a lifetime doesn't really add up to "women are bad and men are good".

[Anonymous]

So this is a troll post to dump on women and foreigners.

OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My oldest daughter and I have been into fashion since elementary school. I’ve always told her that not everyone is into clothes and they’re happy to just wear the same thing everyday. I let her know to never ridicule someone’s looks or clothes.

I told her it doesn’t take much to complement someone on a new bag or shoes and can make someone feel good. Why not?

I think too many parents don’t think of saying these things because it doesn’t cross their minds. But these comments can be devastating to a child.

Agree. I was nice to everyone as a child so when someone is rude I'm taken aback.

[Anonymous]

Too many to count but I knew I was good looking and smart and nice so I never cared. I just assumed the person had bad self esteem and had a bad life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really bothers me when someone, usually women, make snide comments about looks. It also bothers me when people talk in a foreign language in front of me. I've heard people call certain ethnicities dirty, dark, and gross by non white people. So when someone starts talking in front of me in a language other than English (I'm not white) it really bugs me.

Girl 1 in high school. Called out an Asian girl for wearing the same thing everyday. Maybe she was poor but that girl was uppity and mean.
Girl 2 in high school. Also an uppity co ck y mean girl who used to be slim. She got outrageously fat after 5 kids with different daddies. Called me short stuff and pushed me out of the way.
As an adult a girl at work in her 20s made a snide comment about dry hair when mine was very frizzy and dry (my hair is very curly) and Called it straw. She was another uppity girl who bragged she was from Spain.
As an adult another girl who had issues made a snide remarks about small butts when I passed by.
Now whenever a woman talks in front of me in a foreign language I assume she's saying something nasty


I find men just tell you in your face and bully more openly but why all the passive aggression?

Someone in your high school had five children? How old was she when she had the first? Seems like the police should be involved and you should have some perspective.

Nobody is talking about you in other languages. Four comments over the course of a lifetime doesn't really add up to "women are bad and men are good".

She was a teen mom and had different dads for her kids in her 20s and 30s.

Yes, people who think you don't know their language actually DO gossip about you and you're he'll of naive for not thinking so. I speak Spanish and you bet your ass Latinos gossip all the time about you.

[Anonymous]

Black man speaking Chinese surprises Chinese people

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eA3dUjyI8Jc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
So this is a troll post to dump on women and foreigners.

OK.

Nah. I'm a woman with foreigner parents but even they warned me not to trust foreigners heh

[Anonymous]

Women can be so, so cruel to each other. And that’s a fact.