My 49 yr old sister is desperate to get pregnant!

[Anonymous]

My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

[Anonymous]

Knowing the odds, it is unlikely to happen, bullet dodged.

[Anonymous]

What kind of charlatan would do fertility treatment on a 49 y/o?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Knowing the odds, it is unlikely to happen, bullet dodged.

Nope. OP’s sister is the kind of person who would steal a baby. Let’s hope she doesn’t work in a hospital.

[Anonymous]

She's 50. She needs to be smart and recognize she's too old to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

OK? And?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Knowing the odds, it is unlikely to happen, bullet dodged.

With donor eggs definitely possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's 50. She needs to be smart and recognize she's too old to have a baby.

She would be using donor eggs

[Anonymous]

It probably won't happen OP, but she may just be with the guy in order to have a baby. If the baby does happen, he'll probably be out of the picture soon and she won't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's 50. She needs to be smart and recognize she's too old to have a baby.

She would be using donor eggs

Op here! That’s the thing! She won’t use donor eggs unless I’m there isn’t another choice. She is going through all of this and spending money because her doctors are telling her it’s possible.

[Anonymous]

Without donor eggs this is probably a waste of money and time. It's unethical that her doctors are encouraging her this way. Fertility treatments are horrible and difficult and failing to get or stay pregnant while doing them is the saddest thing. Donor eggs would be so much better - and although they are more expensive, these pointless treatments are expensive too.

[Anonymous]

People have babies in their 40s all the time. That's not the issue- her loser boyfriend is.

[Anonymous]

Tell her good luck and wish her the best. A baby is not happening, you know that, and she'll find out soon enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have babies in their 40s all the time. That's not the issue- her loser boyfriend is.

40s, or months away from 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her good luck and wish her the best. A baby is not happening, you know that, and she'll find out soon enough.

No, they don't. Women in their late 40's (OP said 49) are very unlikely to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy. And women in their early 40's are very likely to struggle with infertility before getting pregnant. This idea out there that it's so easy to have a baby in your 40's is not supported by the sad statistics. Plus, a lot of older celebrities seen having babies are using donor eggs, but of course no one realizes this.