Ex reached out to me after 6 years to ask about physical therapy?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up 6 years ago. I’m a functional trainer, it’s a different method in rebuilding your body. Ex., if you have an injury or a physical conditions I train you to not only repair but rebuild. Anyways, today she messaged me and said, “I hope all is well. I know this is very out of the blue but I hyperextend and my knee have been in pain for almost 2 months. I was hoping you could provide me with some tips/workouts or direct me to someone you know who can help with my injury. Thanks”.

This is weird, right?

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t seem weird to me. Seems like she wants your professional expertise.

[Anonymous]

Little weird but if you actually do know a PT, refer her and move on with your life. She probably hates having to reach out to you but is in a lot of pain and you’re the only person remotely in the field she knows.

[Anonymous]

Some people are just self-involved, you seemed convenient and she didn’t consider your feelings. She is perfectly capable of Googling specialists and looking at Youtube videos. Unless you’re interested, I would delay response and give her a short reply with referral.

[Anonymous]

Not weird at all. If it had been 6 weeks or even 6 months after the break up maybe, but not after 6 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Some people are just self-involved, you seemed convenient and she didn’t consider your feelings. She is perfectly capable of Googling specialists and looking at Youtube videos. Unless you’re interested, I would delay response and give her a short reply with referral.

Self-involved? It’s been 6 years lol. I’m assuming it wasn’t a bad breakup because OP would’ve mentioned it. For all we know OP could’ve been a horrible boyfriend to her but we don’t know, so we can’t assume she’s self involved for asking for a PT. She trusts his expertise and isn’t asking him to be her PT, she wants a referral. It’s not that serious lol.

[Anonymous]

How was your breakup OP? Have you contacted her since your breakup?

[Anonymous]

It’s weird to reach out after 6 years and ask for a favor out of the blue. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

It may be uncomfortable, not weird (to me). She values your professional training. Asking for care or direction is a bit much but a referral to another PT seems completely doable and ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How was your breakup OP? Have you contacted her since your breakup?

It wasn’t horrible. It was tough for the both of us. I did about a year after asking if she had been to our favorite spot recently. I then apologized for how I handled the breakup. She thanked me for the apology. About 6 months after that she contacted me saying she was in the area and wanted to know if I wanted to catch up. I declined and said it was inappropriate because I was seeing someone at the time. We haven’t spoken since.

[Anonymous]

You said she messaged you online - are you guys still friends on social media? I don’t think it’s weird but if you guys are still friends it makes her reaching out to you very normal actually.

[Anonymous]

It has been 6 years so you are now firmly in the “old friend” zone. If you ran into each other you would probably smile and hug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said she messaged you online - are you guys still friends on social media? I don’t think it’s weird but if you guys are still friends it makes her reaching out to you very normal actually.

I still follow her and occasionally look at her instagram stories. She unfollowed me years ago.

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t seem weird to me at all. Give the information if you want to, ignore it you don’t. This is how adults interact years after a breakup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t seem weird to me at all. Give the information if you want to, ignore it you don’t. This is how adults interact years after a breakup.

+1.