Tell me a story about your mom

[Anonymous]

I know it’s not quite Mother’s Day yet but I’ve been thinking a lot about my mom lately because my kids are approaching the ages me and my siblings were when my dad died and how I just really respect and treasure my mom for how she handled it. My favorite memory of her is a few nights after my dads funeral she was sewing my brothers Halloween costume and our house was filled, and I mean filled, with casseroles. It was late, maybe an hour or two after she put us to bed and I came down and told her I couldn’t sleep. In a very very out of characteristic move she suggested we order Chinese. At this house? With all this “free food” already made and prepared for us? Eating in secret on the couch without my siblings? Didn’t seem like my mom! We ordered Chinese and we didn’t talk much, she just knew I needed to sit next to her. After we ate and we were cleaning up she said “I want you to know that I can handle this. Our family and your life isn’t stopping. We will be happy and we will have a great life.” And I just believed her. It was what I needed. And we did.

[Anonymous]

Standing on a step stool at the kitchen counter mixing cookie or cake dough before I was old enough to go to school. It was just the two of us and I loved it! I'm a decent cook but I can bake like a pro b/c of my mom due to her extreme patience teaching me how. And boy do I love that memory.

[Anonymous]

One time after dinner someone from work called our home to speak with my dad. He took the call in another room and we could overhear him laughing on the phone to the guy. I said to my mom "That kind of sounds like a fake laugh." And my mother said, "Daddy stopped laughing the day you were born. You just don't know what it sounds like."

A more recent story is that in 2021 my mother wasn't doing so great, and because of Omicron raging nobody in my family was flying to see each other. On the phone to my mother I told her "As soon as things are better, I'll come visit okay? I'll just bring my work laptop and fly out and hang out with you. What could be better than that?" and without missing a beat she replied, "Brian." My brother, her favorite. And then she died that night.

[Anonymous]

My mom used to shop my closet regularly. I remember asking her where one of my favorite dresses went, and she said she had borrowed it, found that it was too big on her, so she had it altered to fit her.

[Anonymous]

She did the best she could. I now know she had deep anxiety and depression. She took some of it out on me. I’ve forgiven her. even though we don’t really have a relationship now she lives in another country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time after dinner someone from work called our home to speak with my dad. He took the call in another room and we could overhear him laughing on the phone to the guy. I said to my mom "That kind of sounds like a fake laugh." And my mother said, "Daddy stopped laughing the day you were born. You just don't know what it sounds like."

A more recent story is that in 2021 my mother wasn't doing so great, and because of Omicron raging nobody in my family was flying to see each other. On the phone to my mother I told her "As soon as things are better, I'll come visit okay? I'll just bring my work laptop and fly out and hang out with you. What could be better than that?" and without missing a beat she replied, "Brian." My brother, her favorite. And then she died that night.

I'm sorry your mom wasn't a good mother to you. I share your pain. I wish I had a heartwarming anecdote from my childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time after dinner someone from work called our home to speak with my dad. He took the call in another room and we could overhear him laughing on the phone to the guy. I said to my mom "That kind of sounds like a fake laugh." And my mother said, "Daddy stopped laughing the day you were born. You just don't know what it sounds like."

A more recent story is that in 2021 my mother wasn't doing so great, and because of Omicron raging nobody in my family was flying to see each other. On the phone to my mother I told her "As soon as things are better, I'll come visit okay? I'll just bring my work laptop and fly out and hang out with you. What could be better than that?" and without missing a beat she replied, "Brian." My brother, her favorite. And then she died that night.

Loved OPs memory. Yours makes me sad.... my mom didn't do this but probably could have.

[Anonymous]

My mom was awesome. Yes, we had our little disagreements, but we had a ton of fun. We shopped, went to movies, out to eat, took vacations together, could talk on the phone for an hour even though she lived close by, and she was a fabulous cook. She died at 86 and I miss her terribly.

We were lower class growing up, but my mom made sure I had a new dress for every dance in high school and gas money. I worked as soon as I was old enough in the summers. I had everything I needed and a few extras. I never felt lower class.

[Anonymous]

My Mom is the best person I know. Such a warm, kind, and calm soul - the type of person I aspire to be. I remember as a teenager, even my friends when they came over to hang out would want to talk to her and would ask her advice, and she would take the time to make them feel heard and understood (What kind of teenager wants to hang out with someone's parents!? That's how special she is). She'd randomly blast Edith Piaf and make me and my siblings have dance parties in the living room. My siblings and I always felt loved, valued, and safe because of her. I should tell her all this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it’s not quite Mother’s Day yet but I’ve been thinking a lot about my mom lately because my kids are approaching the ages me and my siblings were when my dad died and how I just really respect and treasure my mom for how she handled it. My favorite memory of her is a few nights after my dads funeral she was sewing my brothers Halloween costume and our house was filled, and I mean filled, with casseroles. It was late, maybe an hour or two after she put us to bed and I came down and told her I couldn’t sleep. In a very very out of characteristic move she suggested we order Chinese. At this house? With all this “free food” already made and prepared for us? Eating in secret on the couch without my siblings? Didn’t seem like my mom! We ordered Chinese and we didn’t talk much, she just knew I needed to sit next to her. After we ate and we were cleaning up she said “I want you to know that I can handle this. Our family and your life isn’t stopping. We will be happy and we will have a great life.” And I just believed her. It was what I needed. And we did.

I love this story. Your mom is great!

[Anonymous]

My mom can drive me nuts but she is loyal and so hard working. She is a very cautious person but flew cross country Oct 2020 to watch my kids when I delivered my new baby. I remember coming home to an empty house. It was sparkling clean. She had gone to get the kids at school. I showered and my tub was gleaming. I later learned she had been scrubbing in her hands and knees (at 65!). No one had ever done that for any of her homecomingYea, shes been kind of cuckoo since then but I just felt so loved and I think - when the chips were down, she flew to the rescue. Btw my inlaws have yet to meet this grandchild! Their choice.

[Anonymous]

The first two memories that spring to mind are so sad and depressing that I will pause on posting them, but will come back to hopefully read more happy and inspiring ones instead.

[Anonymous]

My mom was amazing. She put the magic in every holiday and every birthday or event...scavenger hunts, special cookies, pancakes that were works of art, family traditions, you name it, she planned it all and made it so fun.

When I was 8, I wanted a grilled cheese birthday party because her grilled cheese sandwiches were amazing and I was a weird kid. She had my older cousin run all sorts of fun games and she delivered on making a huge tray of grilled cheese sandwiches to feed 15-20 hungry girls. I didn't realize at the time what a pain in the ass that must have been, but that was the most perfect day, carefully curated by her. This year will be my first mother's day without her. I miss her. I miss both my parents. I hope my own kids remember the good stuff.

[Anonymous]

My mom used to fling open the door to my bedroom and dance in the doorway when I was playing music that she liked. It annoyed teenage me to no end but it always makes me smile thinking about it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom can drive me nuts but she is loyal and so hard working. She is a very cautious person but flew cross country Oct 2020 to watch my kids when I delivered my new baby. I remember coming home to an empty house. It was sparkling clean. She had gone to get the kids at school. I showered and my tub was gleaming. I later learned she had been scrubbing in her hands and knees (at 65!). No one had ever done that for any of her homecomingYea, shes been kind of cuckoo since then but I just felt so loved and I think - when the chips were down, she flew to the rescue. Btw my inlaws have yet to meet this grandchild! Their choice.

What date was your October baby born? I'm October 22nd.