When did you let visitors come see you after giving birth?
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Anonymous
| Did you have family visit you after you gave birth? The same day or next? Who was allowed or invited to visit? |
Anonymous
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Kid 1 we lived near family. Grandparents visited that night. No one else until we got home. I was fine with the quick visit for just them, but wouldn't have wanted a ton more people there, and we did limit the amount of time.
Kid 2 we lived away from family but my parents were in town to help with kid 1. So they came the next day (birth was middle of the night). His parents didn't come for 2 weeks, by their own choice. |
Anonymous
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1st baby: My father and stepmother (mostly stepmother) barged their way into our home right when we got home from the hospital. She was the opposite of helpful.
2nd baby: wised up and didn't tell people when I went into labor except the person watching Baby 1, and my best friend. Best friend came to our house the day we got home, dropped off food, and took the dog and Baby 1 for a walk, then left. We had a nanny for Baby 1, and DH and I spent two weeks with 2, and didn't tell anyone until after two weeks. "Surprise! We did a thing" kind of announcement. Then we said, "our phones are off, door is locked, we are going to focus on adjusting to being a family of four for a while but after April, if you've had your Tdap we'd love for you to come by if you're in the area to meet the newest member of our family." We really didn't worry about people being offended or thinking we were obnoxious. We were so miserable with what happened with the first baby that we set strong boundaries for the second. We hired a night nurse for six weeks for each baby. |
Anonymous
| My mom came to the delivery room. Inlaws came right after birth. Friends probably first week. All before covid tho. |
Anonymous
| Pp again. My grandchildren were the first grandkids and I'm an only child so we are super close. |
Anonymous
| It astounds me that people have family in the hospital tbh. I would need at least a week. Thankfully because of Covid I got like 8 weeks. |
Anonymous
I’m happy this works for you, but it sounds so sad to me… |
Anonymous
| Grandparents visited on Day 1 of the hospital stay. Some very close family and friends visited on Day 2 of the hospital stay and at home. We had a newborn event with about 20-25 of our near and dear. This was pre-Covid obviously, but nobody was allowed to touch the babies unless they had the TDAP shot (which was basically grandparents and other parents of young kids). Everyone else could admire from afar, which they respected. |
Anonymous
Agree. Also judging "surprise we did a thing" |
Anonymous
| My sisters and mom were in the room for #1 delivered at 2pm. Visitors came after work that day. For #2 pretty much the same thing. Delivery at 2 am, visitors by 11. |
Anonymous
+1 that sounds so horribly self centered. I hope they don’t need to rely on people in the future |
Anonymous
| Parents, siblings and mine and DHs best friends visited in hospital. Ds was born at 1am. My best friend showed up at 7am. Parents and in laws about 8am. |
Anonymous
| My parents came day 1 both times I think? They definitely visited the hospital. |
Anonymous
Don't you think it's okay for a new mother to BE self centered right after giving birth? I do. We rely on the people we hire, and the people in our lives who respect boundaries. We're happy. Nobody needs to be sad for us. |
Anonymous
| We lived overseas, so the first family member to meet the baby was my dad at 10 weeks. The first friend met the baby at 6 weeks. This wasn’t due to restrictions on our part – nobody asked. |