9:yr old now asking for upper lip hair removal

[Anonymous]

I didn’t want to say or do anything till she felt herself that she wanted to. Her friend started teasing her. Couple of others in school being mean. Teacher won’t address. That’s another issue with other things as well. Right now between a rock and a hard place with that one and per DH making child tougher, ha.

Anyway…DH’s side of the family is from Italy so not just face, Will probably use some cream based remover for body when she asks. For facial hair for someone so young, anyone tried anything that is gentle? Thanks

[Anonymous]

Tbh I wouldn’t hesitate on anything non permanent like a little face razor. This feels like a consequence-free experiment to me and well within the range of bodily autonomy. I’d probably force a conversation about peer pressure and misogyny but from an understanding place. It’s not like I don’t remove some of my own body hair.

[Anonymous]

We got this Flawless Finishing Touch Facial Hair remover based on recs from DCUM for my then-9yo's unibrow. She's 10 now and still uses it and now her 8yo sister uses it on hers, too. It's gentle, does the job, and no sharp edges like a razor. I liked it so much I got one for myself (and getting the link for you I see they're 20% off at Target right now with pickup so may get another one in case one of ours dies). Like you, I waited for her to raise it. I'm low-maintenance (like extremely low) when it comes to beauty stuff but she wanted to do something about it. Maybe she'll do something more permanent in the future, but for now this is working well for us.

https://www.target.com/p/flawless-finishing-touch-facial-hair-remover/-/A-75557663

[Anonymous]

Sally Hanson wax strips.
https://www.amazon.com/Sally-Hansen-Hair-Remover-Strip/dp/B00384HT90/ref=asc_df_B00384HT90/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312105552888&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=15471552568984632396&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9005966&hvtargid=pla-567489467939&psc=1

I cut them in half lengthwise so the strips don’t land on my cheeks. I am very fair so I use these strips at night, and hold any ice cube to the area to lesson the irritation.

[Anonymous]

Second the razor. Don’t go the bleaching route.

[Anonymous]

If it’s just her lip wax it.

[Anonymous]

Just pluck with tweezers. Over time, the hair grows back slower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just pluck with tweezers. Over time, the hair grows back slower

Ugh NO. Tweezing will make ingrown and harder to address later. When she’s older she should get electrolysis or laser.

[Anonymous]

Let her do it safely, threading or waxing. Better with your guidance than on her own. I burned my skin bc my mother turned a blind eye.

[Anonymous]

I have a 9 yo girl. I would be proactive and open with your home, in a positive way, making the opportunity for her to talk comfortably with you. Like, I remove my own body hair, shave, wax, pluck, and my daughter knows that.

Also we've discussed Ella's Emhoff is lovely, and does not. I have mentionrd i am used to doing it from my generation, millennial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just pluck with tweezers. Over time, the hair grows back slower

This worked great for me.

[Anonymous]

My daughter (same age) just told me some boys were making fun of her. So we had a discussion about how that is rude and mean but they will probably continue so it is up to her if she want to remove the hair. I told her she should never do it herself and I would help her if/when she decided she wanted to do it. She said she wants to remove it. So we will. I also told her lots of women do it. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me as a kid and I never told my parents, but tried to remove myself. I would not use. Razor bc it can irritate her skin, plus it would lead to more teasing if kids find out. I would talk to her about how it is normal but give her the options. Waxing or threading will hurt; could she use nair?

[Anonymous]

I started using a Tinkle on DD upper lip and her unibrow at 8 years old. She was never teased, but she is incredibly hairy. We never waxed, too harsh on the skin.

[Anonymous]

We tried razor and it came back thicker. Threading was too painful as was waxing. She has very fair and sensitive skin. Nair gave a reaction. Still with razor, she is not happy.

She is 10 and we started the trial and error 6 months ago while still 9. I think I will suggest we wait till at least 16 if not a little longer for laser.