waitlisted at top choice

[Anonymous]

Any advice? Do I call and write? Is it reasonable to request a call to discuss and would they reveal any info about how high my child is on the WL?

[Anonymous]

Many schools waitlist everyone. In this post-pandemic age I would just make alternative plans.

[Anonymous]

Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

If you’re 100% certain send it now. But if you’re not then sleep on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

[Anonymous]

is this pre-K?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is this pre-K?

Kindergarten

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

Yea that’s what I figured. Friends trying to make me feel better - at least DC wasn’t rejected. But it’s functionally the same thing. Don’t know what I did wrong or could have done better other than responding to that email early on and indicating then it was our first choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

Yea that’s what I figured. Friends trying to make me feel better - at least DC wasn’t rejected. But it’s functionally the same thing. Don’t know what I did wrong or could have done better other than responding to that email early on and indicating then it was our first choice.

Why is this waitlist thread so negative while the other waitlist thread is so positive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

Yea that’s what I figured. Friends trying to make me feel better - at least DC wasn’t rejected. But it’s functionally the same thing. Don’t know what I did wrong or could have done better other than responding to that email early on and indicating then it was our first choice.

This is not true. What you do now does matter. Get your preschool involved and ask them to help. Send that first choice letter. It worked for us. We made sure our preschool knew what school we really wanted and they made sure our current school knew it and that we would accept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

Yea that’s what I figured. Friends trying to make me feel better - at least DC wasn’t rejected. But it’s functionally the same thing. Don’t know what I did wrong or could have done better other than responding to that email early on and indicating then it was our first choice.

Can you apply again at the next entry point? It took us 3 (THREE!) times to get accepted to our kid's top choice. Kid stayed in public in the meantime. Finally got accepted for 9th and
in retrospect it all worked out really well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the 10,000 previous threads on this. Please. Conventional wisdom:

1. Send a note indicating that it’s your first choice and that you’ll go if accepted.

2. It’s not a waiting list with “higher and lower” people ranked. It’s a pool. “Hey, we’re two girls and ideally URM short, let’s see what we’ve got.”

3. Assume that plan B is the path, whatever that is. A tiny percentage of people ever get off of waitlists - some schools more than others. It’s a nice way of saying that that for a school with 100 kids in 9th grade, of which, say, 30 are new, there were probably around 375 applications of which 37 were accepted and 100 waitlisted. It’s a long, long shot.

Is it ok that we didn’t send that note today? Should we wait until Monday? Or send that note tomorrow (Saturday)?

I remember the days when I thought it mattered or we could have an effect on the outcome. It doesn’t and you can’t. Use good judgement, send a note if it’s important to you, but most important move on and model resilience for your child…

So depressing. They had responded to an email early on and indicated something about in touch over next weeks (we’ll before decision time). Maybe I should have indicated then it was our first choice.

Nothing you do now matters at all. Even “1st choice” etc.

Yea that’s what I figured. Friends trying to make me feel better - at least DC wasn’t rejected. But it’s functionally the same thing. Don’t know what I did wrong or could have done better other than responding to that email early on and indicating then it was our first choice.

Why is this waitlist thread so negative while the other waitlist thread is so positive?

People are being real. We applied last year and were waitlisted at about 5 schools. I was calling, emailing, had DC emailing, tried keeping in contact all the way until school started in the fall, and got no action. The top schools aren’t answering the phone after decisions. The waitlist situation isn’t good.