Your expectations Vs Realty with their chosen profession.

[Anonymous]

Did your DC exceeded your expectations or not, specially knowing their potential.

[Anonymous]

I never had expectations for my daughter's career. I always said as long as it makes them happy and it's what they want to do then we fully support them.

[Anonymous]

I expected them to be well-rounded people who thrive in society and find ways to nurture their passions. I never cared about what they did for a living. I never connected their intellectual potential to their occupations.

[Anonymous]

Of course. And it isn’t healthy for him or me, so I work really hard to suppress it. Mostly it is anxiety talking; there are not any actual feeling of him failing to measure up.

In truth, kid is doing fine and kid is not me.

OP, I’d be careful and reflect on unintended ways your disappointment shows.

[Anonymous]

Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

Speechless at your post. You should be proud of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

Speechless at your post. You should be proud of her.

Why are you “speechless?” Money is important to us — we are not a rich family and want DD to be upwardly mobile

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

Why do you think that is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

yeah because that's med school... and a big big time and money commitment. Keep your opinions to yourself. You're probably the reason she wants to be a psychologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

Speechless at your post. You should be proud of her.

Why are you “speechless?” Money is important to us — we are not a rich family and want DD to be upwardly mobile

Ah, this makes sense now. Your daughter is your retirement plan. Sorry that it's not working out the way you thought it would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

Speechless at your post. You should be proud of her.

Why are you “speechless?” Money is important to us — we are not a rich family and want DD to be upwardly mobile

Ah, this makes sense now. Your daughter is your retirement plan. Sorry that it's not working out the way you thought it would.

You are incredibly dismissive about the realities of parenting as a middle class family. We are not expecting DD to find our retirement. But unlike most of DCUM, we do not have money saved for her grad school or her wedding or her downpayment. Money is important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

yeah because that's med school... and a big big time and money commitment. Keep your opinions to yourself. You're probably the reason she wants to be a psychologist.

Yes, she said it’s because med school is too much of a commitment. And will leave her in debt.

I showed her the math — med school will leave her $200k in debt, but it will be totally worth it when her salary doubles from a psychologist to a psychiatrist. So the debt is worth it! I’ve showed DD this all on an Excel spreadsheet but she doesn’t believe me

[Anonymous]

Expectation: some deep thinker or public intellectual, going for PhD in economics and eventually getting tenure.

Reality: a finance bro. I hope it’s a phase.

PS: I would never say it out loud, only on an anonymous forum.