Your expectations Vs Realty with their chosen profession.

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Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

yeah because that's med school... and a big big time and money commitment. Keep your opinions to yourself. You're probably the reason she wants to be a psychologist.

NP. Literally. The post ASKED FOR OPINIONS and thoughts on their kids' chosen profession.

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Anonymous wrote:I never had expectations for my daughter's career. I always said as long as it makes them happy and it's what they want to do then we fully support them.

+1

This, plus as long as they can provide for themselves as well. While we can afford to help them out, it is much better for their mental health to be able to be fully functioning adults and have a career that allows them to afford life.

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I was very worried about my youngest as she seemed to get by on her looks. She began to turn it around her senior year of HS, did OK in college and she has knocked it out of the park since then. When she got out of college my husband had monthly date night dinners with her focused on her career and how she was doing and he introduced her to many successful female professionals many who became mentors. Now when she talks about her job and it’s challenges I’m in awe of how far she has come.

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Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

Start a boutique counseling practice. Don’t anccept insurance. $180/hr. There is demand. My friend does this and she is doing well.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend is a psychologist and she makes 150/hour cash and she schedules her appointments whenever she wants, totally flexible around her kids’ schedule. Totally jealous -MD

THIS^^^^. They are in such need right now, as you can wait months for an appt with one thru insurance. Very easy to set your price, own schedule and work as little or as much as you want. We need more people willing to do this, especially ones who are good at it

When I had to book an appt for my kid to get a full neuropsychological eval the wait was over 5 months and that is for places that don't take insurance.

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Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

Start a boutique counseling practice. Don’t anccept insurance. $180/hr. There is demand. My friend does this and she is doing well.

PP here with the aspiring psychologist DD. Can I ask more about your friend? Do they have a high HHI? Do they have good work life balance?

I personally think that being a psychiatrist or an MD is way better.

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I will be happy if they are not working in a sandwich shop at age 30. That is about my expectation.

Yep! Neither one of my kids was interested in a career that was going to end up lucrative nor were they interested in studying something they don't like. One is hoping to end up a fed like both parents (a GS 13 and 14 - the horror!) and the other hopes to be a working musician and has a decent plan. I feel like they will end up happy and fulfilled but there may be bumps along the way and it might take a little while. At least they don't have student loans.

This! I have a college senior and sophomore. Neither care about being rich and don’t want high pressure careers. I just want them to be happy with what they choose. I’m glad they won’t start their careers with student loans because they were practical and chose UMD. I tell them all the time they don’t need our approval. I’m sure there will be some bumps but they will find a way to support themselves. They already have demonstrated a great work ethic throughout school and their internships.

I bet they have trust funds. Everyone else needs to worry about housing, childcare, and retirement — which are all very expensive in this day and age.

Or they saw the sacrifices their parents made to get high salaries and want a better family life.

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Anonymous wrote:Happy with both kid outcomes. Both are doing well in their careers - one is a lawyer one is a consultant. Both make good money and can support themselves plus their hobbies and travels. They seem to enjoy what they do and the friends they have made in their careers. I think they are especially proud of as their self sufficiency as many of their friends rely on parental support to live NYC, LA etc.

Yes, it is important for kids to go into high-paying careers if they don’t have wealthy parents.

Why? If your daughter is half decent looking, she can just marry up. Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:I was very worried about my youngest as she seemed to get by on her looks. She began to turn it around her senior year of HS, did OK in college and she has knocked it out of the park since then. When she got out of college my husband had monthly date night dinners with her focused on her career and how she was doing and he introduced her to many successful female professionals many who became mentors. Now when she talks about her job and it’s challenges I’m in awe of how far she has come.

This is a nice story about your daughter and your husband sounds like he did a good job advising her but if I were you I wouldn't refer to her dinners with dad as "date night" because that is way too creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

Speechless at your post. You should be proud of her.

Why are you “speechless?” Money is important to us — we are not a rich family and want DD to be upwardly mobile

Ah, this makes sense now. Your daughter is your retirement plan. Sorry that it's not working out the way you thought it would.

LOL truth

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Anonymous wrote:Extremely disappointed my daughter wants to be a psychologist. She is very bright and hardworking — could’ve gone into tech or medicine if she wanted

The point is that she is probably well aware of those possibilities and does not want to do those things. Hopefully you are keeping your opinions to yourself and letting her live her own life helping others.

I suggested she be a psychiatrist — pay is much better than psychologist and she will be doing something similar. But she won’t listen!

Start a boutique counseling practice. Don’t anccept insurance. $180/hr. There is demand. My friend does this and she is doing well.

I pay my really good therapist $300 an hour.

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My child is not an adult yet but I am lucky to live in a subsidized apartment in a nice area and as long as both of us can come up with $1500 in rent (and there is help available if we aren’t able to pay a month or two) my son and I are fine.
I also have plans to go live elsewhere once retired so he can have it to himself.
If he wants to work a lot and earn a lot - great; more power to him! But if not, as long as he isn’t mentally ill/addicted/a criminal he will do fine. People don’t die of starvation in the USofA. It’s comforting to know one has basic social protection.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disappointed at how many hours they work in return for a middle class income. They are only entry level accountants but still can be working over 50hrs in a week for a salary instead of hourly wage with overtime.

Middle class is the new proletariat.
It’s going to be more and more like this. Two income families overworking to barely afford a house and necessary savings

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Anonymous wrote:I will be happy if they are not working in a sandwich shop at age 30. That is about my expectation.

Haha, mine is that they are mentally healthy, not addicted, and not a criminal.
I am sure they will figure out the rest.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. My parents are unhappy with my major (liberal arts) and my chosen profession (I'm a fed). In fact I'm a GS 14 supervisor and they actually referred to me as a secretary recently. Any major can still make good choices and have a great career. Love your kids for who they are and go from there.

It's all about bragging rights.