Incident in Basic skill classroom

[Anonymous]

There was a sub in the classroom, and a student in the classroom needed a charger because he forget his, my DD ask him if he wanted her and he said no. Then he had a meltdown because he didn't have his charger. (I am not sure but I think he has ASD he wear headphones all the time like her friend that also has ASD) Then there were some words "exchanged" according to my DD she felt like singing "You'll never know the psychopath sitting next to you
You'll never know the murderer sitting next to you".. with her friend. the boy was offended and cursed them out. Then my DD told him not to shot him when he does the school shooting thing......


They were both send to the office for Disrupting class. how can we handle this?

My dd has ADHD and she understands that she shouldn't be bullying anyone. She said she wasn't singing the song to "Him", but was calling her bfs a psych path.., but I am pretty sure she poking fun of him.

They are both high school freshman.....

[Anonymous]

She literally called the student next to her a psychopathic school shooter. That’s not “poking fun”, that’s cruel. You teach your child that bullying is never, ever acceptable. If she feels unsafe she should speak to the adult in the room or ask to go see her counselor. Hopefully the school is handling with appropriate discipline.

[Anonymous]

What punishment did you give her?

[Anonymous]

I would have my child write a hand written apology to the teacher, the principal, student, the student parents, her friend, and her friend’s parents.

I’d also take away the phone for the rest of the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What punishment did you give her?

Detention

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What punishment did you give her?

Nothing yet
School gave her detention

[Anonymous]

She was definitely bullying him no matter what she minimization she fed to you. That's a known considering she followed up the song by telling him not to shoot her when he becomes the next school shooter. There needs to be a consequence from you not just the school so that she knows you will not tolerate this type of behavior. Basically, you need to hold her accountable. She's in the 9th grade so you can't blame this on ADHD impulsivity and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

Does she need the basic skills class? She might just be fed up with dealing with meltdowns. She’s in high school and shouldn’t have to listen to screaming over not having the perfect charger anymore

[Anonymous]

That was really cruel of her and she clearly doesn't know that bullying is not ok if she is doing this as a freshman in HS. You need to implement a meaningful punishment at home as well.

[Anonymous]

I would be mortified if my teen were that cruel. Does your daughter struggle with empathy? This is a sign your daughter needs more social skills intervention. She could not give him grace, but instead did something sadistic like that? Does she have a therapist? If so, please make sure they work through this.

[Anonymous]

Oh, yeah, you need to call your DD on her BS. She was definitely antagonizing the other student in a way that was cruel and, at the same time, thoughtless. I'm sure it made her feel a bit more powerful and, if she continues to antagonize the other student, would set her on the path to bullying.

Call her on it and see if she can explain why she did it, help her see that it was cruel to the other student and ask her to put herself in the shoes of student who have actually experienced gun violence in school. I'd also make her write an apology to the other student and, perhaps, buy him a power pack.

[Anonymous]

At what point is it fair for a student to expect to experience class without having to listen to meltdowns or tantrums. I would have thought high school would have been fair. OP, your dd was wrong and should apologize, but she should also be able to have an uninterrupted class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At what point is it fair for a student to expect to experience class without having to listen to meltdowns or tantrums. I would have thought high school would have been fair. OP, your dd was wrong and should apologize, but she should also be able to have an uninterrupted class

I don't know why you're posting in the special needs forum since you clearly have no experience with children with special needs and especially ASD. Also, are you seriously saying that hr daughters response was justified? Because it is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At what point is it fair for a student to expect to experience class without having to listen to meltdowns or tantrums. I would have thought high school would have been fair. OP, your dd was wrong and should apologize, but she should also be able to have an uninterrupted class

I don't know why you're posting in the special needs forum since you clearly have no experience with children with special needs and especially ASD. Also, are you seriously saying that hr daughters response was justified? Because it is not.

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[Anonymous]

My daughter has ADHD (among other things) and would NEVER say something like that to someone. If she did you can bet I would have serious consequences aside from detention.