Living together as a throuple (no kids)

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If you’re in a throuple, how many bedrooms is your residence? What else should I know before moving in?

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Have fun with that, not judging. But every situation I have witnessed ends up as an absolute shit show.

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Anonymous wrote:Have fun with that, not judging. But every situation I have witnessed ends up as an absolute shit show.

I've only witnessed one, but yep. Sh!#show.

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I know a thruple who have been living together 5 years. I don’t pry and don’t really know how it works, but it sounds like in their situation there’s a main couple who share a bedroom and the third partner has their own bedroom. So two bedrooms in the house. Seems to be working for them.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have fun with that, not judging. But every situation I have witnessed ends up as an absolute shit show.

I've only witnessed one, but yep. Sh!#show.

+2. Constant drama.

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Author Neil Strauss wrote The Truth about his attempts at sexual lifestyle design. He arranged to live with three women. It turns out they all expected him to sleep with them on the first night. So all three women had their own bedroom, and Neil slept on the couch.

After that, Neil found a bisexual woman who would participate in threesomes. She fell in love with another woman and left. Easy come, easy go.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a thruple who have been living together 5 years. I don’t pry and don’t really know how it works, but it sounds like in their situation there’s a main couple who share a bedroom and the third partner has their own bedroom. So two bedrooms in the house. Seems to be working for them.

This is how the throuple I knew lived. Two had been together for over a decade before they invited the third to join in. The third had his own bedroom.

Lasted less than a year before the third and one of the original two headed to Florida together. That lasted about a minute and a half. I think the third ended up stealing the second guy's car.

The first, leftover guy ended up meeting and marrying someone else. They're doing great.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re in a throuple, how many bedrooms is your residence? What else should I know before moving in?

Focus on bedrooms all you want, but have you focused on the emotional and larger social and family logistics? Have you bluntly talked about what happens if jealousies arise? How you will handle things like work social events and other social outings and invitations? (Will you be publicly a throuple who socialize as such, basically? Or do two of you want to be a public couple and the third is fine not being part of that--?) Might there eventually be family issues like whether you all try to go to family holidays as a "throuple" or "couple and our friend who goes everywhere we go" or just all as solos to do holidays with your own individual families? Family stuff is a moot point for many adults but not for all.

Find old threads here about throuples arrangements, it's come up in the past. It's easy now to say, oh, we'll work all that out as we go, when you're just focused on the sexual arrangement at first. But these arrangements blow up over normal human things like jealousies. Epectations that aren't made crystal clear. Or two of the three ending up paired off more/being more compatible living together. Or people growing feelings that won't fit into a triangle any more. Or one or more of the participants wanting a more "traditional" relationship to family holidays with parents and not knowing how to navigate that, etc. Again, maybe you've thought of all that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a thruple who have been living together 5 years. I don’t pry and don’t really know how it works, but it sounds like in their situation there’s a main couple who share a bedroom and the third partner has their own bedroom. So two bedrooms in the house. Seems to be working for them.

This is how the throuple I knew lived. Two had been together for over a decade before they invited the third to join in. The third had his own bedroom.

Lasted less than a year before the third and one of the original two headed to Florida together. That lasted about a minute and a half. I think the third ended up stealing the second guy's car.

The first, leftover guy ended up meeting and marrying someone else. They're doing great.

No different from poligamy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a thruple who have been living together 5 years. I don’t pry and don’t really know how it works, but it sounds like in their situation there’s a main couple who share a bedroom and the third partner has their own bedroom. So two bedrooms in the house. Seems to be working for them.

This is how the throuple I knew lived. Two had been together for over a decade before they invited the third to join in. The third had his own bedroom.

Lasted less than a year before the third and one of the original two headed to Florida together. That lasted about a minute and a half. I think the third ended up stealing the second guy's car.

The first, leftover guy ended up meeting and marrying someone else. They're doing great.

Makes one wonder if the third who came into an established relationship was an AP of of one of the other two before they tried the throuple arrangement. Also makes one wonder, if that was the case, which of the established couple--the former AP or the other person--is the one the third left with. Messy any way you look at it. A decade as a couple and they end up blowing it up. Better to have just split and each found other partners, maybe, instead of inviting a third into the relationship like they were going to share successfully?

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re in a throuple, how many bedrooms is your residence? What else should I know before moving in?

Is this a three guys situation?

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OP Wonder Woman creator William Moulton Marston's old New England house had lots of bedrooms and an attic to accommodate them all. https://www.amazon.com/Secret-History-Wonder-Woman/dp/0804173400

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re in a throuple, how many bedrooms is your residence? What else should I know before moving in?

Is this a three guys situation?

OP here. No, two guys one woman.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re in a throuple, how many bedrooms is your residence? What else should I know before moving in?

Is this a three guys situation?

OP here. No, two guys one woman.

Three bedrooms would likely be best.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Wonder Woman creator William Moulton Marston's old New England house had lots of bedrooms and an attic to accommodate them all. https://www.amazon.com/Secret-History-Wonder-Woman/dp/0804173400

This just jogged a memory. My childhood friend lived in an old (early 1800s) farmhouse. They had a weird hippie guy who was the "hired man" who lived on the 3rd floor which was only accessible by a hidden staircase from the kitchen.