Cup of Jo

[Anonymous]

Joanne's divorce is really surprising to me 😮
Alex seemed like a man child but also really supportive

[Anonymous]

She's getting divorced?! I'm pretty shocked because I don't follow her closely. I feel like a few months ago she posted about their anniversary and how grateful she was for her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's getting divorced?! I'm pretty shocked because I don't follow her closely. I feel like a few months ago she posted about their anniversary and how grateful she was for her husband.

I think they're going with the we still love each other, just grew apart and have different goals narrative

[Anonymous]

Oh sad. I feel for her.

[Anonymous]

It’s crazy how even her divorce and the language she uses to describe it is so on-brand. It’s a cute divorce with cute traditions and cute reactions from neighbors. Someday her kids will read this post and feel dismissed, imo. She really downplays the gravity of it from their pov.

That said, she was definitely the more impressive in that relationship, despite his NYT connections. I’ve loathed him since his comments about being too good for khakis (they’re something guys who work at Best Buy wear, he said). Classic hipster classism.

Was he married before?

[Anonymous]

I was shocked as well but also with the description of the decision- we have different values with child rearing, etc. how is that going to get better? I think maybe it’s a personal fault on my part but I have a hard time understanding the vagueness and want to know the details. Like what about the differences of values. But like how does this happen logistically with feelings? She laid it all out with the counseling and stuff. It’s not my business but I kind of want a post mortum for purely selfish reasons.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read in years but I remember there was *something* significant she alluded to re: one of the kids. Seemed like either autism or gender nonconformity. Something she wanted pseudo-private v her usual profit-driven confessions. Could be really hard on a marriage. But I’m purely speculating and that was ages ago.

[Anonymous]

She has always struck me as very sensitive, pretty anxious/tentative and a bit weak in the identity department, for her age and accomplishments. Defining herself as a mother mostly or the relationship as a key focus for her but I don't feel like we know her really at all, in part by how little she revealed in part maybe because there was not a lot there? I can't read it regularly anymore, it skews very young and very idealized and I think, a bit saccharine. She's a late bloomer so maybe she was putting up with behaviors she's grown out of. Wish her well. Agree with pp, she sounded like she was minimizing the potential impact to the children, but that's not new, she's always sounded a bit Pollyanna to me.

[Anonymous]

I don’t read her blog but I just read her divorce post. It’s definitely a bit weird and detached. Either she’s lying about how she feels, or she REALLY wanted him to gtfo and is happy. I guess in this age of wallowing in the “perfectly imperfect” it’s somewhat refreshing to read an account of divorce that appears willfully in denial as opposed to “oh my god I am wallowing in extreme mental pain!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read in years but I remember there was *something* significant she alluded to re: one of the kids. Seemed like either autism or gender nonconformity. Something she wanted pseudo-private v her usual profit-driven confessions. Could be really hard on a marriage. But I’m purely speculating and that was ages ago.

Yes, I remembered that too, from GOMI because a local mom called out what a hypocrite she was for exploiting her child to the point of them being recognized by strangers at the playground but then being all private about this. I think the conclusion was that one of her children was autistic and why did she feel that she had to hide that when she was showing everything else about them? Presumably because it didn't fit her perfect life narrative, which is gross. https://gomiblog.com/cup-of-jo-will-vagueblog-about-her-struggles/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read in years but I remember there was *something* significant she alluded to re: one of the kids. Seemed like either autism or gender nonconformity. Something she wanted pseudo-private v her usual profit-driven confessions. Could be really hard on a marriage. But I’m purely speculating and that was ages ago.

Yes, I remembered that too, from GOMI because a local mom called out what a hypocrite she was for exploiting her child to the point of them being recognized by strangers at the playground but then being all private about this. I think the conclusion was that one of her children was autistic and why did she feel that she had to hide that when she was showing everything else about them? Presumably because it didn't fit her perfect life narrative, which is gross. https://gomiblog.com/cup-of-jo-will-vagueblog-about-her-struggles/

NP. I remember this too and have the same reaction.

I can’t stand the blog, the writing, and frankly the snobbery, smugness and gross immaturity of either Jo or Alex. PP up thread who commented on how quirky! cute! their divorce announcement was with a fellow Brooklyn moron dad saying “processing…processing…” ugh. Yup. I live in a similar neighborhood and the aren’t-we-smart? But also like aware and cool but total “shy dorks” BS is so tiresome. It’s kind of too bad they split because they seem really well matched for these reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read in years but I remember there was *something* significant she alluded to re: one of the kids. Seemed like either autism or gender nonconformity. Something she wanted pseudo-private v her usual profit-driven confessions. Could be really hard on a marriage. But I’m purely speculating and that was ages ago.

Yes, I remembered that too, from GOMI because a local mom called out what a hypocrite she was for exploiting her child to the point of them being recognized by strangers at the playground but then being all private about this. I think the conclusion was that one of her children was autistic and why did she feel that she had to hide that when she was showing everything else about them? Presumably because it didn't fit her perfect life narrative, which is gross. https://gomiblog.com/cup-of-jo-will-vagueblog-about-her-struggles/

NP. I remember this too and have the same reaction.

I can’t stand the blog, the writing, and frankly the snobbery, smugness and gross immaturity of either Jo or Alex. PP up thread who commented on how quirky! cute! their divorce announcement was with a fellow Brooklyn moron dad saying “processing…processing…” ugh. Yup. I live in a similar neighborhood and the aren’t-we-smart? But also like aware and cool but total “shy dorks” BS is so tiresome. It’s kind of too bad they split because they seem really well matched for these reasons.

NP- you summed it up perfectly!

[Anonymous]

I thought Joanna Goddard looked familiar. I realized she’s the sister of Lucy Kalanithi, the widow of the neurosurgeon who wrote the heartbreaking memoir “When Breath Becomes Air”.

[Anonymous]

I like the blog -- it's fun to see it pop up in my email inbox. I like the mix of topics she covers -- not too skewed toward domesticity -- and I like the tone -- not too focused on the perfectly-curated life. I wish her and her family well.

[Anonymous]

I've always hated her blog, she's so very hipster Brooklyn mom and it's like, lady, you're in your 40s now, you should have grown out of your pretentiousness by now.