What is the least effective parenting style?

[Anonymous]

Neglect

[Anonymous]

Gentle i.e non parenting

[Anonymous]

Great question.

I would say an abusive parenting style would be least effective. That would include being passively abusive and neglectful - or actively abusive. Authoritarian parenting would also qualify as abusive.
So would parenting characterized by favoritism. So terribly damaging.

Just thought of Prince Harry and how it must have been terrible as a kid to be labeled the expendable extra. Talk about parents playing favorites!

Worth a read: https://raisingamericans.substack.com/p/a-royal-mistake-the-destructiveness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great question.

I would say an abusive parenting style would be least effective. That would include being passively abusive and neglectful - or actively abusive. Authoritarian parenting would also qualify as abusive.
So would parenting characterized by favoritism. So terribly damaging.

Just thought of Prince Harry and how it must have been terrible as a kid to be labeled the expendable extra. Talk about parents playing favorites!

Worth a read: https://raisingamericans.substack.com/p/a-royal-mistake-the-destructiveness

I can't take you seriously since you decided to use Harry as an example

[Anonymous]

Outside of the obvious - abuse, neglect, parent with addiction or mental health issues - I think the worst standard parenting style is never wanting to say no/no boundaries/thinking you are a friend. It’s confusing for kids, sets you up as a pawn, and can ultimately feel like neglect if the kid thinks you didn’t care enough to set good boundaries and expectations.

[Anonymous]

There's actually been studies on this. Basically two kinds overly controlling or no boundaries at all . Authoritarian and Permissive

The most effective is thought to be authoritative where you give the child guidance and boundaries but not crush their spirit.

[Anonymous]

From decades of studies, parenting research shows that authoritative parenting is consistently linked to the best outcomes in kids.

The authoritative parenting style is considered the best parenting style by psychologists and psychiatrists.

https://www.parentingforbrain.com/4-baumrind-parenting-styles/

[Anonymous]

Screaming over and over again and expecting another outcome.

I grew up in a house like this. I wish I knew this before I raised mine. While I was not as bad as my mother I still escalated fights and the outcome was never good.

I have apologized to my children when I think I was wrong and I do think that can go a long way as well.

I feel very lucky my kids turned out as well as they did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Screaming over and over again and expecting another outcome.

I grew up in a house like this. I wish I knew this before I raised mine. While I was not as bad as my mother I still escalated fights and the outcome was never good.

I have apologized to my children when I think I was wrong and I do think that can go a long way as well.

I feel very lucky my kids turned out as well as they did.

Like looking in a mirror….

[Anonymous]

Abusive narcissists

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From decades of studies, parenting research shows that authoritative parenting is consistently linked to the best outcomes in kids.

The authoritative parenting style is considered the best parenting style by psychologists and psychiatrists.

https://www.parentingforbrain.com/4-baumrind-parenting-styles/

Basically the opposite of what most DCUMERS do

[Anonymous]

Abuse and religious indoctrination. Corporal punishment.

[Anonymous]

How are you defining effective?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Screaming over and over again and expecting another outcome.

I grew up in a house like this. I wish I knew this before I raised mine. While I was not as bad as my mother I still escalated fights and the outcome was never good.

I have apologized to my children when I think I was wrong and I do think that can go a long way as well.

I feel very lucky my kids turned out as well as they did.

Oh bless you. You’re a great mom.

[Anonymous]

Such a stupid thread.