a school staff adore my kids

[Anonymous]

There is a ES staff adores my 2 kids for the past year, and she is like a grandma age. She is a helper staff at school, and I have seen them hugged my kids and given them extra snacks upon pickup/drop off. I think she is lonely, and my kids love to hug her back. I am fine with that, but she is the only person I know that touch my kids, and sometimes I feel a bit burdened that she gives them a bit too much attention. My kids love it, but I feel a bit weird about the whole situation. My kids are cute, but they don’t sweet talk and I don’t understand why she adores my 2 kids ( a boy and a girl). She has talked to me many time how much she likes my 2 kids, and they are quite handful to me, lol.

Anyone has encountered this situation before?

[Anonymous]

It's sweet, OP. Not a problem. Just be happy for her and for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Trust me- it beats the opposite- when a teacher/ care giver takes a random dislike to your kid.

[Anonymous]

I have people taking random likings to my kids (they are cute and outgoing and were babies during the pandemic so a lot of people in my apartment building imprinted on them or something). It's fine but it can be a bit exhausting especially if you have to police the extra treats. I just try to teach my kids nice company manners and hope they remember them, lol.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it reminds her of her (estranged?) grandkids and she's living vicariously through them.

[Anonymous]

Does it make your kids uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it reminds her of her (estranged?) grandkids and she's living vicariously through them.

WTH?

[Anonymous]

Probably because your kids hug back or show appreciation for her attention. My twins are in 5th grade and over the 5 years we've been at our ES, there have been 2-3 teachers who have taken a special liking to my kids, including hugs. One teacher used to note things that my son did and would send me messages with pictures attached of things he did (though Canvas). The only thing was that this was a GT math class and while the things she highlighted were good achievements, they were achievements that several other kids in the class also had. I have no idea if she was sending photos and such to all of the parents, but my son and this teacher had a special friendship/relationship. We were sad when she retired last year as she was his favorite teacher in the whole school.

[Anonymous]

Can school staff hug kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can school staff hug kids?

Depends on the school district.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a ES staff adores my 2 kids for the past year, and she is like a grandma age. She is a helper staff at school, and I have seen them hugged my kids and given them extra snacks upon pickup/drop off. I think she is lonely, and my kids love to hug her back. I am fine with that, but she is the only person I know that touch my kids, and sometimes I feel a bit burdened that she gives them a bit too much attention. My kids love it, but I feel a bit weird about the whole situation. My kids are cute, but they don’t sweet talk and I don’t understand why she adores my 2 kids ( a boy and a girl). She has talked to me many time how much she likes my 2 kids, and they are quite handful to me, lol.

Anyone has encountered this situation before?

Sounds sick to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a ES staff adores my 2 kids for the past year, and she is like a grandma age. She is a helper staff at school, and I have seen them hugged my kids and given them extra snacks upon pickup/drop off. I think she is lonely, and my kids love to hug her back. I am fine with that, but she is the only person I know that touch my kids, and sometimes I feel a bit burdened that she gives them a bit too much attention. My kids love it, but I feel a bit weird about the whole situation. My kids are cute, but they don’t sweet talk and I don’t understand why she adores my 2 kids ( a boy and a girl). She has talked to me many time how much she likes my 2 kids, and they are quite handful to me, lol.

Anyone has encountered this situation before?

What is "grandma" age? Such a ageist descriptio. "Grandma" age is any where from 35 to 100!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me- it beats the opposite- when a teacher/ care giver takes a random dislike to your kid.

OP is stirring up snakes and alligators.

[Anonymous]

OP, a child can never have too many people loving them. This is a good person. She's taken a shine to your kids for whatever reason. They have someone at school who makes them feel loved. This is a good thing.

If you want to ask her not to give your kids food anymore that's fine. If you want to tell your kids to never go anywhere without YOUR (or other parent's) permission, even if it's someone they know, and you toss in a neighbor, a family friend, and this woman at school as examples, that's also fine.

[Anonymous]

Random teachers at my child's daycare have come up to me and told me how much they love my daughter. I have to admit, she is a magnetic person even at her young age. I think it's fine. Definitely better than having teachers dislike your child.