Would You Attend The Funeral of an Estranged Sibling?

[Anonymous]

My closest friend at work has a brother she hasn't spoken with in 11 years. I understand that they were never actually close despite being 2 years apart, but when their mother died the estate (4m) was left to my friend. That was the last time they spoke.

He died in a freak accident this last Thursday at 52 and the funeral is next week. She is not planning on attending. This has me baffled.

[Anonymous]

A funeral is for those mourning the dead, and those supporting said mourners. If she's not in one of those two categories, it makes sense she wouldn't go.

[Anonymous]

Not your business.

[Anonymous]

I would not go.

I am estranged from my mother & brother, if I outlive them I would not go. Not in a million years.

[Anonymous]

Is the funeral 20 miles away or 2,000 miles away?

[Anonymous]

Ha. My mean as a snake mother called me from hospice 4 days before she died begging me to come see her. I didn't visit and I didnt attend the funeral. You made you bed. You lay in it.

[Anonymous]

Why go listen to people who will likely be saying wonderful things about someone you detest? So you can spit on his grave?

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is closure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha. My mean as a snake mother called me from hospice 4 days before she died begging me to come see her. I didn't visit and I didnt attend the funeral. You made you bed. You lay in it.

Dang. My mom is a bit annoying, but I think I've just seen her in a new light.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha. My mean as a snake mother called me from hospice 4 days before she died begging me to come see her. I didn't visit and I didnt attend the funeral. You made you bed. You lay in it.

We could totally be best friends.
Zero empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My closest friend at work has a brother she hasn't spoken with in 11 years. I understand that they were never actually close despite being 2 years apart, but when their mother died the estate (4m) was left to my friend. That was the last time they spoke.

He died in a freak accident this last Thursday at 52 and the funeral is next week. She is not planning on attending. This has me baffled.

If thee we only reason is the money, I’d go.

[Anonymous]

You cannot judge without living in their shoes, OP.

I agree with you that it's really sad. Not the part where she's not going. The part before, all the past that happened between them that led to this point. You don't know who is at fault, or even if there is fault.

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

What did she do to get mom to give her all the money? I could see why he wanted nothing to do with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not your business.

This! Clearly this!

[Anonymous]

Most estrangements come from wounds far deeper than “they were never close.” Keep out of your friend’s business and don’t judge her for not attending, because you don’t know the whole story.