Repeating "I want ..." until we gave in.

[Anonymous]

My DD will be 3 years old in March. Ever she starts to speak she has been very insistent on what she want. Lately she got attached to me so she would say "I want mommy" when her dad picks her up at daycare. She'd say "I want mommy" all the way home. If I was not home, she'll cry with "I want mommy" over and over again until I arrive.

She'll do this with anything. "I want banana" when we ride in the car, and if we don't have banana, she'll repeat "I want banana" and eventually with crying and throwing a tantrum.

It's like this all day, "I want icecream", "I want sit with mommy", "I want noodle" when we are eating pizza. It's exhausting. My husband says I am enabling her, but we can't let her cry it out for every little demand. She used to cry until throw up.

Our older son never had this issue. I am hesitant to see a doctor for autism because she is otherwise communicative and normal.

[Anonymous]

Your husband's right. What else do you want us to say?

[Anonymous]

Try the 123 magic method it might work with some of the whining. YouTube video it.

[Anonymous]

Parent as you mean to go on. Tell her you don’t have a banana/mommy is not here. Them redirect. if she has a tantrum ignore snd don’t engage. Even in public.

[Anonymous]

Stop giving in. You’re not enabling her per se but you’ve got her trained like a dog that she will eventually get what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Learn to say no

[Anonymous]

As long as you continue to cave, she will continue to behave this way. And you lose the right to complain about it. You are the one that is enabling her and refusing to teach her to stop the behavior.

[Anonymous]

You’ve created this monster, OP, by teaching her that persistence pays off. Now it will take great fortitude on your part to ignore her, or lock her up in her room or something else, until she gets that whining will get her nowhere.

[Anonymous]

What happens when she throws a fit in the car about wanting a banana you don’t even have to offer her? Or when she wants you but daddy picks her up from daycare? I assume she survives and no one is taking a detour to the grocery store or having your husband leave the daycare and you go to pick her up instead.

[Anonymous]

One of my kids understood "no " the other had to be told " no means no. I want not changing my mind." Repeat.

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They finally got it
We also relied in 123 magic starting in Pre-K at both home and school

[Anonymous]

Put her in her room and have everybody else have an ice cream party until she gets herself under control.

[Anonymous]

My sis used to sing Rolling Stones "you can't always get what you want (but if you try sometimes)" at/ with her kids.

[Anonymous]

So she has a tantrum or cries until she throws up? You continue to say no until she realizes that no really does mean no.

Because up until now no mean cry more and I'll get what I want.

You created this monster. It's up to you to fix it.

[Anonymous]

If you give in, she's getting the message that she has to go longer next time. You HAVE to stop giving in. Or else it's not going to get better. If she throws up she throws up. She's not sick, she's just upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband's right. What else do you want us to say?

+1. You enable her.