Expat and home country siblings
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Anonymous
| How do you manage your relationship with siblings in your home country when your aging parents are back there too? |
Anonymous
| Guessing it's not too different than moving far away within the US, far from family. Unfortunately those who stayed (parents and siblings) believe it's entirely your obligation to come visit them. And generally make 3x the effort in the relationship, in every way. |
Anonymous
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Not exactly the situation OP is referring to, but somewhat similar. My sibling and I both moved to the US in our 20s. Now our father is very sick - my sibling traveled to our home country since it seemed like our father's death was imminent. However, he recovered a bit, but is now again in the hospital and expected to die soon. Sibling feels stuck since no one is sure how long the process will take and they can't leave until our father actually passes on. I was not able to travel due to circumstances beyond my control. However, sibling harbors enormous resentment against me since they feel like they had to do all the heavy lifting and makes sure they let me know every single day.
It's an awful situation - even though I have been unable to travel for very valid reasons (and sibling knows this), I will carry enormous guilt for the rest of my life. I also feel like my relationship with my only sibling will never be the same again. |
Anonymous
Most expats and immigrants in this situation are burdened with guilt and try to send money to make up for it. |
Anonymous
This^. |
Anonymous
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My brother keeps reminding me to be grateful because he is taking good care of our parents.
Our parents are well to do and he is benefiting financially a lot but still he thinks he is giving more than he is receiving. |