Guy I’m about to break up with bought me an expensive gift
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Anonymous
| What would you do? I’ve been dating a guy for over a year who wants to marry me, but our relationship has been rocky due to his bipolar disorder and I think it’s soon time to go different directions. I know he recently bought me an expensive Christmas gift (likely jewelry) that I don’t want. He really wants to see me open it, and I know it brings him pleasure to see me happy. But it’s going to be painful for me to open this gift. Should I ask him to take it back? I’ve been strict with him that he isn’t to buy me expensive gifts and this is the first nice gift he has given me. Advice needed. |
Anonymous
| Why haven't you broken up before now. Why are you dragging it out? |
Anonymous
| Of course you can’t accept the gift. Break up with him already! |
Anonymous
| Yeah you shouldn't accept it. |
Anonymous
| Gee, who could have foreseen that he would have bought you a gift in December for the holidays?! Gosh, golly, gee, don't we all feel so bad for YOU. What could you possibly have done to prevent this conundrum? |
Anonymous
OP here. He’s a very sweet, thoughtful guy that I enjoy spending time with. But he has some mental health issues that are of concern. |
Anonymous
| OP here again. I should also note that I’m not 100 percent sure I’m going to break up with him. We talk multiple times a day, so I haven’t been able to break it off with him and I think he feels the same way. |
Anonymous
It's not fair to him if you keep leading him on. Have a hard conversation, break the romance and offer to be friends. Obviously do not accept the gift. |
Anonymous
| That happened to me. I didn't have the heart to break it off. We've been married for 22 years! |
Anonymous
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You hand the gift back, unopened, and say "We need to talk."
Then you talk. |
Anonymous
Well, are you happy with your decision? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| What if it’s an engagement ring? |
Anonymous
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OP, I understand. I dated a bipolar guy who was very sweet and nice but ultimately I could not overcome the mental illness piece.
You need to give him the gift back unopened as PP said. Or just talk to him now, forget about the gift. This is about clarifying the nature of your relationship. If you want to just be friends while you think about it, then say you can't accept the gift. |
Anonymous
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OP - you are cruel not to have broken up with him
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