My kids bday and the live in partner

[Anonymous]

If appreciate some honest feedback, and ask you to refrain from moralities and whatnot.

My partner has been living with my daughter and I for the past couple of years. The actual relationship and family dynamic has been working well. My daughter loves him. He’s super helpful with all the kid logistics and is engaging with the kid etc. recently we realized that his out of state conference coincides with my daughters birthday. Would you expect him to miss the first day of the conference for her bday, and get upset if he didn’t volunteer to do that ? Sure he’s not the parent but we do all love together! My
Kid has an actual involved father, that’s not the thing. Partner has no kids.

I told him that this decision was a dealbreaker for me and he said he would go
Late to the conference, but I’m still pissed I had to insist instead of him just making it on his own. .

Am I overreacting?
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[Anonymous]

No, he should go to the conference. That is a professional responsibility and much more important than your girlfriend’s child’s birthday.

I think you are unreasonable and controlling for insisting he stays and misses his conference.

[Anonymous]

What in the world?! You are out of your mind. He should not miss a conference for her birthday! That seems insane. My husband has had to be out of town for work during my birthday and our kids birthdays several times, it would never occur to me to ask him to delay a work trip because of that.

Celebrate her birthday the day before!

[Anonymous]

You are completely off base. Celebrate your child’s B-day before or after. My husband has been out of town for multiple B-days over the years. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

My kids' own dad has missed their birthdays multiple times due to work travel. It happens.

[Anonymous]

I must pile on with the so far unanimous decision (a rarity dcum), you my dear are way out of line. To go as far as to insist that he do this when she has an involved father by your own admission... That's a cherry on top of crazy. That man needs to run. This is one of those moments where you understand why the first relationship fell apart.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. He should go to the conference. You're being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

It's just a day. You can celebrate the bday on another day. you're making far too big of a deal of this. You're setting a terrible example for your child.

[Anonymous]

Yes you’re overreacting.

[Anonymous]

You are way out of line.
You should apologize and he should break up with you.
I don't understand how you could think this is a reasonable request.

It's a cottdamn birthday!

He could call her from the conference and wish her happy birthday.
And if you must do a celebration with him another time.

Like seriously what is wrong with you that you would even make this request and then turn it into a relationship ultimatum? Wtf!

[Anonymous]

Also you're going to turn your daughter into one of those adults who thinks her birthday is a national holiday.


You are completely in the wrong her the only exception would be if your daughter were I'll and this was likely to be her last birthday and since you didn't say that was the circumstances you are wrong

[Anonymous]

Other people are being mean and rude, which you don’t deserve, but unfortunately I do agree with their core message.

A birthday is not a huge deal, whereas a business conference is quite important for work. You can all just celebrate the weekend afterward. Even for a father and his actual daughter, if he happened to have a conference on his kid’s birthday that’s just life sometimes and not outrageous.

[Anonymous]

You are nuts He should give you the boot. ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If appreciate some honest feedback, and ask you to refrain from moralities and whatnot.

My partner has been living with my daughter and I for the past couple of years. The actual relationship and family dynamic has been working well. My daughter loves him. He’s super helpful with all the kid logistics and is engaging with the kid etc. recently we realized that his out of state conference coincides with my daughters birthday. Would you expect him to miss the first day of the conference for her bday, and get upset if he didn’t volunteer to do that ? Sure he’s not the parent but we do all love together! My
Kid has an actual involved father, that’s not the thing. Partner has no kids.

I told him that this decision was a dealbreaker for me and he said he would go
Late to the conference, but I’m still pissed I had to insist instead of him just making it on his own. .

Am I overreacting?
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WTAF? This should be a dealbreaker for him.

[Anonymous]

Agree he DH go to the conference and you owe an apology.