Telling family about pregnancy

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[Post New]11/05/2022 20:20
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Anonymous
Husband and I just found out we are pregnant with our third child. My sister is due with her second at the end of December. Normally I would tell my family about the pregnancy after I received the genetic testing results (around 13 weeks), but that is going to be a week or so after my sister gives birth. In this situation is it polite to wait longer to tell family or should we just go ahead and let everyone know?
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:22
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Anonymous
How about you wait until she gives birth and go from there?
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:22
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Anonymous
Nobody cares.
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:26
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares.


Here comes Kathy
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:32
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Anonymous
No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:34
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


Exactly. Sounds like there’s a lot of drama in OP’s family.
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:40
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


+1

Especially for a third kid. No one really cares when you announce a third pregnancy.

- mom of three
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:52
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


+1

Especially for a third kid. No one really cares when you announce a third pregnancy.

- mom of three


OP- It’s about my sister, not about me. I see my family all the time so I can’t hide it forever, but I’m worried about my sister feeling like the spotlight isn’t on her and her new baby. Hence, wanted to know if there was etiquette around this. People who hate babies and pregnancies and think all of this is dumb don’t need to respond. I know how you feel and your advice isn’t helpful.
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:55
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Anonymous
Your sister would be weird to be offended. It's just a pregnancy announcement - no one's going to rush to your house to hold an actual baby. People will still want to visit her and her baby.

And your last response to PP was quite rude.
[Post New]11/05/2022 20:58
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Anonymous

Well, if she's as hair-trigger sensitive as you appear to be on this thread, she's sure to be offended!



[Post New]11/05/2022 21:00
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


+1

Especially for a third kid. No one really cares when you announce a third pregnancy.

- mom of three


OP- It’s about my sister, not about me. I see my family all the time so I can’t hide it forever, but I’m worried about my sister feeling like the spotlight isn’t on her and her new baby. Hence, wanted to know if there was etiquette around this. People who hate babies and pregnancies and think all of this is dumb don’t need to respond. I know how you feel and your advice isn’t helpful.


Your sister is due with her second. You are now expecting a third. Nobody cares. The whole world does not revolve around either of you. Spare us the drama.
[Post New]11/05/2022 21:04
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


+1

Especially for a third kid. No one really cares when you announce a third pregnancy.

- mom of three


OP- It’s about my sister, not about me. I see my family all the time so I can’t hide it forever, but I’m worried about my sister feeling like the spotlight isn’t on her and her new baby. Hence, wanted to know if there was etiquette around this. People who hate babies and pregnancies and think all of this is dumb don’t need to respond. I know how you feel and your advice isn’t helpful.


Your sister is due with her second. You are now expecting a third. Nobody cares. The whole world does not revolve around either of you. Spare us the drama.


PP enough. You have responded eight times and posed as a mom of three (probably mom of eight soon!). I get it. You think this is stupid. Just wanted to know if there was etiquette around this so I could at least follow it. Can you go watch SVU and take a break?
[Post New]11/05/2022 21:27
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No harm in waiting a week or two, but not sure why one has to take away from the other.


+1

Especially for a third kid. No one really cares when you announce a third pregnancy.

- mom of three


OP- It’s about my sister, not about me. I see my family all the time so I can’t hide it forever, but I’m worried about my sister feeling like the spotlight isn’t on her and her new baby. Hence, wanted to know if there was etiquette around this. People who hate babies and pregnancies and think all of this is dumb don’t need to respond. I know how you feel and your advice isn’t helpful.


Are you going to be with your family for the holidays? Just mention it then. This is not a big deal. It’s not your sisters first baby and even if it was is everyone else supposed to stop their lives?
[Post New]11/05/2022 21:54
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Anonymous
NP here ~ I agree, it's not your sister's first baby, so it's not so dramatic. OP, how about you tell her first? Make it special. It can be your special secret with her.

If you're not close to her. If there are problems between the two of you ... waiting a certain amount of time isn't going to fix it.
[Post New]11/05/2022 21:55
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Anonymous
If it's your sister's feelings you're worried about why not ask her?
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