Guy takes forever to respond to texts

[Anonymous]

Been dating a guy for a couple of months. One of my pet peeves is that he takes forever to respond to text sometimes. He says it’s because he is destressing from work and unplugs sometimes. I find it very irritating and have expressed that. He is not married so please no one suggest that. He could be seeing someone else, though volunteered on his own that he’s not. Some people lie, who knows? Outside of this issue we get along very well and are very attracted to each other. We both want sex! But I’m hesistant because the idea that it takes him 24 hours to reply to some texts turns me off. Am I being reasonable?

[Anonymous]

he's just not that into you
(sorry to be harsh)

[Anonymous]

Agreed Re he’s not that into you. When a guy is you know it.

[Anonymous]

It takes him a whole day to respond to texts?!? While dating?!?! How long would it take him if you were married, 3 weeks??

Not that into you.

[Anonymous]

24 hours to reply- yikes. That is a long time. My dh and I don't reply to texts during work hours, but after is normal. It used to drive me crazy that dh didn't reply during the workday, but now I get it and am busier myself at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:he's just not that into you
(sorry to be harsh)

+1. You also might be texting too often from what it sounds like, tbh.

Either way, if you’re alrrady very irritated in the first couple months, the most fun light-hearted time of dating, you are not as good a fit for each other as you think you are.

[Anonymous]

He just isn’t interested in you that much.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I’m just gonna call it quits. It’s a weird dynamic where he puts forth a ton of effort for extravagant dates twice a week, is very engaged when we are together, then just seems lackluster in between the dates. I’m not even a huge texted and hate to talk in the phone, but at 2 months I kinda expect a daily light check in.

[Anonymous]

I think it is high maintenance to expect a daily check in after two months. I am a woman. You have extravagant dates twice a week? This would be more than enough for me. Good luck. Sounds like you need someone needy.

[Anonymous]

It’s either he isn’t into you or you are too needy. Maybe both.
Either way, you’re not the one for him and he’s not the one for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m just gonna call it quits. It’s a weird dynamic where he puts forth a ton of effort for extravagant dates twice a week, is very engaged when we are together, then just seems lackluster in between the dates. I’m not even a huge texted and hate to talk in the phone, but at 2 months I kinda expect a daily light check in.

Whew, that would have been my ideal set up when I was dating. Sounds like a good catch!

[Anonymous]

He's not into you. Next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is high maintenance to expect a daily check in after two months. I am a woman. You have extravagant dates twice a week? This would be more than enough for me. Good luck. Sounds like you need someone needy.

Most people are having sex after two months of nice weekly dates. It’s not too much to expect the person you’re banging to say good morning or good night. It takes 5 secs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:he's just not that into you
(sorry to be harsh)

I was literally going to post this. If you are a priority you will be treated like one. Period.

[Anonymous]

I'm female and I don't respond right away. I'll get to it when I get to it. If you really need something, you can dial the phone. Otherwise your emojis and 1 liners are just more noise.

I don't have the patience to date people that text/call/email constantly. Give me some space.